Well, I finally did the 'jaho' thing, now I'm not sure what to do next.

There's not a specific day or time set yet, I'm not exactly sure when we'll both have time to do it. She just said 'text me', which doesn't help me much since I'm trying to be accommodating to her schedule (full time college student with two jobs).
Anyways, I need an idea of what to do. Dinner and movie is a little clichéd, and something that we could do at any time just as friends (we've already done dinner anyways). I have a few ideas, but the weather's not exactly right at this time for some of them (picnic, star gazing).
Thoughts? Suggestions? Ideas? I'm open to (almost) anything.

To be honest, I don't think that either of us is really taking this serious, it's just a date, so nothing too extreme please.

Raid a local Goodwill.

do something absolutely insane
like raid a good will as terash said
make her remember the date

Raid a local GoodWill? No! That's never the answer...

Go set fire to the North Pole instead.


Or maybe a movie will do.

Make her dinner.

How many times have you two gone out before? Or how well do you know her?

Dinner and a movie is cliche for a reason, my friend. It's always a good option.

If it's cold where you are, ice skating can be nice, or coffee is a good way to force conversation. There's this cool place where I live that's half bowling alley, half bar catered to underage Asian kids with a bunch of board games and pool tables... If you have something like that where you are...

Based on his post, it's the first time.

So yeah...

Why do I have a feeling the mods will close this thread? Everything relationship wise they tend to close and it pisses me off. I swear, if they close this I will report every other thread to give them something to do.

Anyways, how old are you? I may be able to offer advice regarding age.

Go carts
Putt-putt
Batting cages
Hiking
Beach
Bike riding
....

We need to know what there is to do around you, what you guys like to do, and you budget.

Bwahahahaha epic fail on my part!

Wonder what there is to do in Kansas. Maybe go tornado chasing?

Well, that one time was a special circumstance, we met at a Chipotle's semi-near her house and I bought dinner and we talked. I just really needed someone outside of my family to talk to at that time. Definitely not a date, she's ate there with other guys (just friends) too.

I know her pretty well, but I'm at a bit of a blank when it comes to dating.

There'll probably be a five more posts by the time I get this finished.

Movie and dinner
Ice Skating (even better if she doesn't know how to ice skate)
Make her dinner yourself and watch a movie (try to make sure the dinner is actually good)

You just need to be somewhere thats comfortable for both of you and so you can at least get to know each other, whatever that environment is.

Go paintballing. Right now your goal is to have her instinctively associate your name with pain.

What's wrong with dinner and a movie? It's cliche'd but it's actually pretty fun.

Either that or you could take her to the local comic store and roll AD&D multi-class exotic races.

It all depends on what you both like to do. (Or more importantly, what she likes to do this early on in the game.) The best date my bf ever took me on was bowling. Why? Because we could talk and actually spend time together doing something we both enjoyed. (And it was even better because I won. )

My least favorite date was dinner and a movie. But maybe I'm just weird.

Sounds like you know her from something prior if she was there for you to talk to as a friend.

If so then you need to show her your more interesting side. Don't fake it though. Be honest to a certain degree but don't be afraid to embellish for [censored] and giggles. Making outrageously over exaggerated statements about yourself within a non-serious context can make you seem funny and confident.

What do you like to do that might be sociably acceptable to some degree and shocking yet fun?

Do something fun yet memorable in a good way should be your target date imo.

I prefer the semi-expensive($40-50) dinner then something utterly different then what you would expect after such a classy outing routine. Just to keep them guessing. You have to retain some mystery and not just lay it all out on the table. Of course mister mysterio wins no dates either. baby steps. Going to a movie is a neutral option if you want to play it safe. Or go to something crazy with a lot of energy to it like a rave/fight/bull fight/laser tag/paintballing/.

Or maybe do not listen to me and do what seems the best. All we are doing in this thread is refining your own thought process, or so I hope. IMO do not follow anyone's advice exactly. Least of all my own.

I think as long as the thread stays civil and avoids becoming spammy, the mods don't mind. Of course there's the whole 'beating the dead horse' thing that I think is what the mods really don't like, but hopefully we can avoid that.


I would love to cook for her, but right now that's not much of a viable option (I will not go into that now, but she knows the situation). Hopefully in a few months that will be an option; I like to think of myself as a decent cook, and she's already sampled some of my holiday sweets.


Don't listen to you? OK
Good ideas, though. I'm just worried that I'm going to make a complete mess of things.

You live in Kansas? It's supposed to be raining in the mid west soon (I live in Oklahoma) if its a nice shower, take her out on a date and at some point go walking out in the rain. This will force her to be right next to you and dependent on you to protect her with your umbrella from the big bad rain.

That one works with anything you're trying to teach her, too. I skate so when girls want to learn how to skate, I tell them to hop on my board and naturally they cling to me so they wont slip and hurt themselves. It works.

sf x tekken

Coffee is always a good idea. There's just something about sitting down in a dim coffee shop and sipping on one of the world's best drink. Ahh makes me miss "The Black Dog" in Tallahassee. That place was awesome. Best mocha "frappeccino" ever. Just don't take her to Starbucks. Find an original laid back coffee shop that's got a nice atmosphere. Starbucks is just...well Starbucks. Good when you need something quick and to-go but not the best place for a date.

Go to your/her house and watch a film and cook up a dinner or something?
Play a few games, let her win one as a warm up. Just relax