First of all, you two are awesome for debating so well. We're all passionate about this, and I do respect your opinions. Only time will tell how this all plays out I guess

Who says there wont be inner struggles? They actually openly stated there WILL be struggles within the Ebonheart Pact.
There probably will be Redguard in Skyrim who knows, players wont be able to do that. Why?
The player is forced down one specific path based on their race. Even if there are internal struggles playing out within, say, Skyrim, the fact that the player cannot join those struggles is an issue. The fact that we cannot decide to go against our faction and join one of the others is a cardinal sin, in my opinion, for a TES game. There's no choice involved at all.
You aren't forced to join the Imperials in Skyrim if you're an Imperial yourself. You could join the Stormcloaks if you wanted. Legate Rikke is a Nord fighting against the Stormcloaks. Heck, you could even decide that both factions are insane and decide to ignore them both and let them get on with it. Or if you really wanted, I suppose you could make it your mission to kill every Imperial and Stormcloak you come across, meting out your own form of justice for the land and its people. It's your
choice, and that's the important part.
Because as it turns out the Game decides that you are a Member of the Faction. Like in Skyrim it decides HEY YOU ARE THE DRAGONBORN. You cant be "not" the Dragonborn in Skyrim. Sure you can act like youre not the Dragonborn. Just like you can still not join PvP. But Dragons will still hate your guts in Skyrim, and youll still absorb their souls.
If you don't start the main quest, you don't become the Dragonborn, and dragons don't spawn. I've only ever become the Dragonborn once, with my first character, and even then I had played the game for 30 hours before becoming Dragonborn and triggering the dragons to start spawning. Until then no dragons appear, and no-one recognizes you as the Dragonborn. It's always been that way in TES games - you could choose not to be the Nerevarine in Morrowind, and Oblivion Gates wouldn't appear in Oblivion until you had started the main quest.
Removing choice from the player really goes against the core of The Elder Scrolls experience. Forcing me to play a Nord who agrees with an alliance with the Dunmer is a bad idea.
Oh yeah and i didnt play Lineage 2 because i dont play Asian games but from what i know its a Grindfest with the occasional PvP.
I get your point, but these things were just a few occasional castle sieges from what ive heard from people that played it.
PVP was the heart of the game. It wasn't something that happened occasionally, the entire game revolved around it. There were 7 different castles, one for each territory, and controlling a castle gave you power over its territory allowing you to set tax rates for the region and manage its defences. It would be like TESO allowing every province to be warred over, but keeping Cyrodiil as the main prize. Lineage 2 had Aden castle as its crown jewel - the equivalent of TESO's White Gold Tower.