I don't see why you have a hard time playing games while you're married. If you have kids however then that is another story.

I'm sure your wife has her private time and watches a crap load of TV or something just as my GF does. Tell her playing Skyrim is your necessary private time that you need to relax. All rational people will understand this.

Spoken like the true mayor of Metro City

Ya and calling her "women" like that isn't mean either now is it? or saying that you don't need her or you have the final word? nope not a selfish man at all

My husband plays golf. Need I say more...?

I play at night when the kids are asleep. My husband works a lot away from home, so when he's away I play more, when he's home I play less. (MY current problem is that gaming steals time from writing, which is my other major hobby... But that's entirely my own fault.)

Hey, not married yet. I won't marry based on them accepting video games but they are a huge part of my life and that won't be changing anytime soon.

ha i dont have to explain myself but me being the king of the castle makes her the queen and she's treated as such but just like royalty of old, the kings word is final and he gets the best cut of meat and choice of entertainment

when i say i dont need her its just a blunt way of reminding her that if she's not good for me then she's bad for me and i can find another woman who would be good for me...the same rule applies in reverse, if you're not happy with me then theres the door.
I dont understand why people suffer and struggle in a bad relationship trying to "fix" the problem...theres 6 billion people in the world, lifes too short to stress over 1 of them.

ha thanks...its rough on the streets of metro city with all the andre the giant clones about so a strong mayors got to take charge

im glad someone.finally gets final fight...people thought my name was from sammy haggar, sammy haggar svcks

Look at it like this. Lots of married couples cheat on each other. So if they can find the time to fool around behind each other's backs, finding time to play a video game should be a piece of cake.

My wife has no interest in games whatsoever, but she does love to shop. My son is on the other side of the world and my daughter is a teenager (thus wants nothing to do with daddy ... as long as he's paying the bills). Problem solved.

I've been with my woman ten years now and we have 2 lovley kids. She's not a gamer but i was when we met, so she knows the score. I tell her i love her everyday, take her out for meals and drinks and do my part with the kids. I have an hour at night before bed, an hour in the morning before work and every friday night is mine, which usually means 10pm till 6am. If she does ever have a little moan about my gaming, all i say is " where would you rather i was, down the pub with me mates, getting pissed and leering at woman or at home on my xbox ". She soon shuts up.

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My advice, share them with your closest friends, not on a public forum on the internet. We all lack the proper decorum here because we are all incognito (my real name isn't The Plebeian). If we were all sitting in the same living room, all of the moderators save one would be unemployed.

That dude is obviously not married. No woman on the planet could stand him.

My wife is currently getting the last few achievements on Resi 5, I'm waiting for her to go to work so I can play Skyrim, heh.

She has looks, brains and can kick my backside on Virtua Fighter... every day I thank the universe for allowing us to meet.

I'm married AND retired, so I have so much time to play as I like (and I like a lot...)

What if you're a nerdy princess?



(married 8 years; both gamers)

ha yea because no woman on the planet likes a strong man who takes care of her and takes charge...the women who whip their guys into shape and mold them are the same women who long for a strong man like me and cheat on their house husbands.
This is from past experience with a woman who cheated on her guy because he was too tame for her and she wanted a tiger to take charge and ravage her

Ask any woman if they would prefer a tame pvssycat or a tiger...but you give her the remote and your balls with it; i hear the "yes dear" thing keeps the peace in a relationship

Well, in my case, because it's our tv... also, good for both of you if your relationship works that way. Personally, I can't stand women that would put up with that type of behavior, but, to each his own.

Yes because apparently in relationships you can only be completely controlling, or completely submissive.

Or what if... and this is only a theory... what if you could just have two mature advlts making decisions together without any cheap metaphors about whips, and balls... Nah it'll never work

Where do I start the quest to find these so called gamer girls? I don't need a quest marker, just a description. Also, what spells and shouts should I use? Animal allegiance? Paralyze?

Then you will get yelled at for not going to bed with them. Also to the rocket scientist that suggested to "kick her to curb", shut up stupid. It does not work like that, woman have two things in common with tornados, google it in your spare time.
Now back to my brother in the married position. It's a pain in the ass, I know. I tried getting my wife into the game, actually got her into the game and helped her create a character. But, she got bored with it, and well you know.
What may work for you is to encourage your spouse to have hobbies and stuff to do that doesn't not involve YOU!!!
Example, my wife is an artist and sells Mary Kay in her spare time. Two activities that I totally don't understand and just have to not my head a lot in support. If she is occupied, what are you free to do? Thats right, dragon slaying time!!!
I don't know how long you have been married, but I got 5 years and we have a daughter. All joking aside, they are the true joys of my life, and I am blessed that they are with me in life.
If it makes you happy, explain that to your wife. The important thing is to remind her were your priorities are and to have open communication about how you both feel. If she is complaining about you being on to much, check your hours played, she might be on to something. You can always save and play later. She may have something better for you to do than play video games;)!
And another great time to at is when she is mad at you, because what is she gonna do then anyway?

You've got me all wrong, im not COMPLETELY controlling but like leonidas, submission of any sort is not in my nature
Im very good to my woman and am caring and compassionate to her needs but im captain of my ship and steer where i see fit...that doesnt mean i never steer in the direction she wants to go, it only means i wont steer in a direction i deplore just to please her. She has a valued say in matters, i just have the final say in what decisions are made.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can be a good husband without bending to the will of your wife? Ask her and she will tell you she's satisfied both physically and emotionally...i think modern "men" forgot what it truly means to be the man of the house

The recent posts are starting to make me frown.

(As in I mean to say, marriage is hard all round, and all us here must be making it work somehow- in whichever philosophy we choose- no need to fight one another over it.)

yep, same here. 15 years together, 2 kids under 6, and it only took 10 years for her to figure out that no matter what I'm a gonna do what I want ta.( Of course playing with the kids takes up a lot of my time off, but they are fledgling gamers themselves ) That being said though, after 15 years I know when I'm pushing my luck and try not to piss her off tooOOoo much, I still like getting my skin

There's a difference between "bending to the will of your wife" and "being the captain". If you like a women that believes, as you do apparently, that a man is more important or should have more say in a relationship than a women, great for the both of you. I prefer having a wife to having another pet, but that's just me.