Shout out to the married players here : V - Skyrim

» Fri May 04, 2012 1:44 am

Kick her to the curb and play to your heart's content. :evil:

amen brother

» Fri May 04, 2012 1:33 pm

You've got me all wrong, im not COMPLETELY controlling but like leonidas, submission of any sort is not in my nature
Im very good to my woman and am caring and compassionate to her needs but im captain of my ship and steer where i see fit...that doesnt mean i never steer in the direction she wants to go, it only means i wont steer in a direction i deplore just to please her. She has a valued say in matters, i just have the final say in what decisions are made.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can be a good husband without bending to the will of your wife? Ask her and she will tell you she's satisfied both physically and emotionally...i think modern "men" forgot what it truly means to be the man of the house

I don't mean to get too off topic, so I will try to keep this short.

If that works for you and your wife, fine. You may not be completely controlling, but from what you are saying it seems that you are completely in control. In the end all of the decisions go through you. I do not see this as being necessary in a relationship, and I find this idea that, "men" (as you insultingly put in quotes) are just bending to the will of another by not telling them what to do, completely ridiculous.

When I sit down to watch TV with my girlfriend, I don't just expect her to hand me the remote, and allow me to change the channel without question. Same goes the other way though. I don't just watch what she wants to watch. We have a discussion about it, and without argument. This might come as a surprise to you but neither of us needs to be submissive to "keep the peace" and spend time together.

» Fri May 04, 2012 10:52 am

You've got me all wrong, im not COMPLETELY controlling but like leonidas, submission of any sort is not in my nature
Im very good to my woman and am caring and compassionate to her needs but im captain of my ship and steer where i see fit...that doesnt mean i never steer in the direction she wants to go, it only means i wont steer in a direction i deplore just to please her. She has a valued say in matters, i just have the final say in what decisions are made.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can be a good husband without bending to the will of your wife? Ask her and she will tell you she's satisfied both physically and emotionally...i think modern "men" forgot what it truly means to be the man of the house

I think there is a happy medium between being the " man of the house " from the 1950's and a " partner " from today's standards. My wife knows men are dogs and like dogs we gotta run, she knows by now how much leash to give me and when to put my muzzle on :tongue:

But as the dog I have also figured out when I can get away with certain things and when I can just bark and run. :yes:

It's a partnership and like any partnership there is always gonna be a dominate side and a passive side, but it's up to both side to figure out how to coexist, right now I'm playing with play dough and talking here, when the wife gets home she will take over entertaining the kiddies( cause she wants to ) and I will move to the game room and play Skyrim until supper is done then it's family time until bed time,then I spend a couple hours with the misses. Once everyone's pleased I will play Skyrim again. :yes:

» Fri May 04, 2012 11:53 am

yep, same here. 15 years together, 2 kids under 6, and it only took 10 years for her to figure out that no matter what I'm a gonna do what I want ta.( Of course playing with the kids takes up a lot of my time off, but they are fledgling gamers themselves :tongue:

) That being said though, after 15 years I know when I'm pushing my luck and try not to piss her off tooOOoo much, I still like getting my skin :shifty:

ha finally someone who gets it....i.prefer spending time with my fam as well and definitely dont try to over-assert my authority on my woman (she's puerto rican so i might get stabbed ha) but i am man of my house and king of my castle...im too strong willed to be anything but and i also lead wherever i go because i cant submit to the will of others, even "bosses". I have to abide by laws but still do as i please and never let another tell me otherwise

It takes a strong woman to be with a man like me but im dam good to my women and will do anything for anyone thats in my heart...

» Fri May 04, 2012 5:14 am

Where do I start the quest to find these so called gamer girls?

I met mine right here in these forums. In the Morrowind Mods forum, to be precise. We flirted in threads, then we PM'd, then we IM'd, then we talked on the phone. She invited me to come live with her. So I moved across the United States to Oregon, where she lives, leaving all my possessions behind except what I could fit in a suitcase. That was in 2003. And we're still together now.

» Fri May 04, 2012 4:57 am

There's a difference between "bending to the will of your wife" and "being the captain". If you like a women that believes, as you do apparently, that a man is more important or should have more say in a relationship than a women, great for the both of you. I prefer having a wife to having another pet, but that's just me.

when did i say i was more important then her? I treat her like a queen so she treats me like her king...whats wrong with that?

ever hear alicia keys 'a womans worth'? she sings the truth about how i feel real men and women should be: "..and a real woman knows a real man always comes first.."

yes im man enough to quote.alicia keys

» Fri May 04, 2012 2:21 am

OP - My advice is to find a balance. Your balance and harmony may not look like anyone else's, but if it works for everyone involved, then it's good.

Haggar - You seem to have found your way and you say it works, so enjoy life. Just understand that your words will sound a little strange to some people. Everyone's idea of balance and harmony is different.

Now, let's go play some Skyrim.

» Fri May 04, 2012 12:32 pm

I'm married to Dovakiin. :3

» Fri May 04, 2012 4:30 am

I think there is a happy medium between being the " man of the house " from the 1950's and a " partner " from today's standards. My wife knows men are dogs and like dogs we gotta run, she knows by now how much leash to give me and when to put my muzzle on :tongue:

But as the dog I have also figured out when I can get away with certain things and when I can just bark and run. :yes:

It's a partnership and like any partnership there is always gonna be a dominate side and a passive side, but it's up to both side to figure out how to coexist, right now I'm playing with play dough and talking here, when the wife gets home she will take over entertaining the kiddies( cause she wants to ) and I will move to the game room and play Skyrim until supper is done then it's family time until bed time,then I spend a couple hours with the misses. Once everyone's pleased I will play Skyrim again. :yes:

maybe im antique minded but the old school has good sides as well...women say they want equality but never complain when i demonstrate the old ways of chivalry and hold doors open, offer my coat when cold or stand up for them when someone disrespects them. Im very respectful of true ladies and do put their needs 1st but a true lady shows the same respect by putting my wants before her own.

I would starve to feed her and die to save her life so petty things like letting me control the tv and choices in our relationship are just small ways of her appreciating and respecting her man...

» Thu May 03, 2012 10:39 pm

Agreed, this works for you I presume?

Yep. I make sure I spend time with her, do things with her and help her if she needs it. Then, I can do my own thing and she does not mind, in fact, she even asks me, "Are you going to play your game? Good, because I want to watch this movie".

One thing that helps is she has a couple hobbies that I have no interest in and she likes horror movies and chick flicks. So, I DVR those movies so she has something to watch when I am playing. Sometimes, she will even set up her craft hobby in my gaming room, while I play she will weave a basket.

The most important thing is I make sure she is not neglected for my gaming, and in return, she supports my gaming.

» Fri May 04, 2012 8:55 am

Yep. I make sure I spend time with her, do things with her and help her if she needs it. Then, I can do my own thing and she does not mind, in fact, she even asks me, "Are you going to play your game? Good, because I want to watch this movie".

One thing that helps is she has a couple hobbies that I have no interest in and she likes horror movies and chick flicks. So, I DVR those movies so she has something to watch when I am playing. Sometimes, she will even set up her craft hobby in my gaming room, while I play she will weave a basket.

The most important thing is I make sure she is not neglected for my gaming, and in return, she supports my gaming.

My wife often works on her craft stuff while I play. I do catch her watching sometimes.

» Fri May 04, 2012 2:58 am

I'll be 65 later this year, and have been gaming since early 1982 - good old days of Atari 2600 and C-64 and the 300 baud modem.

I've been married since Jun 1971, and my wife is a gamer, too. However, she doesn't like scary games like Doom, Diablo, etc. So, she plays the Sims 1/2/3 with all their expansions, etc.

We both retired in 2007, and I play mostly all day and in the evening, with breaks here and there. She plays D&D table-top in the AM, Sims in the PM and in the evening.

I've almost completed Skyrim, just some mage college quests, and the entire bard quest chain. I have right around 600 hours on 5 characters.

So, on 15 May I'll be leaving and heading over to the devils' playground, where I'll try and save the world from destruction by Diablo and his minions in Diablo 3 which will be released by Blizzard that day. I've already downloaded the pre-load - 7.6 GB - just need the patch with the final changes which will also release the program for play. Interesting thing, Blizzard made it an on-line game - even though it's a solo player game - playable with teams with up to 4 players. Mainly because almost everything is on the server side to prevent hacking and botts.

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You sir are my hero, I hope you and your wife live to over 100 and get a [censored]load of gaming under your belt.

I am 40 and only been married for under a year (1st time too) although we have been living together for over 12 years.
She likes to watch mediocre crap on TV and I would rather not watch my IQ drop by a point for every second I watch it, my brain likes to be kept busy and games do just that.
Sometimes I wonder if having a gamer chick wife would be a dream or a nightmare, I like low a ping when playing online and wouldn't like the competition for bandwidth.

» Fri May 04, 2012 2:13 am

ha finally someone who gets it....i.prefer spending time with my fam as well and definitely dont try to over-assert my authority on my woman (she's puerto rican so i might get stabbed ha) but i am man of my house and king of my castle...im too strong willed to be anything but and i also lead wherever i go because i cant submit to the will of others, even "bosses". I have to abide by laws but still do as i please and never let another tell me otherwise

It takes a strong woman to be with a man like me but im dam good to my women and will do anything for anyone thats in my heart...

When I was just about to become a dad I made a personal decision, that I would be as close to a Red forman dad as possible. IMO Red was the ultimate dad, he was stern but not over dominating, he new when to show " softness " with the family as well but he was in charge ( to an extent, Kitty had her methods ) So I combined the best of both the " man of the house " and the " life partner " The wife is my second in command, I consult with her on any family decisions, I will listen to her ideas/reasons and I will try and compromise most of the time, but there are still some situations where I'm in charge and my word is the final one( mostly with punishment situations )
Anyway, back on topic. I equate my game time to stupid TV that I have to sit through, or sappy chick flicks that I'm tied down to watch, and then there's times that I just cannot handle another episode of Days of our lives or Super natural ect...ect.. so we compromise, she watches those shows on the lap top while I play xbox. And some times she even forgets about her shows cause she's more interested in watching my get ass [censored] in Halo team slayer, or vise versa, I forget about playing xbox cause I managed to take an interest in what ever it is she's watching( except for the soaps, I HATE the soaps )

For those who don't know who Red Forman is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_ZhMEvujAY

» Thu May 03, 2012 10:55 pm

My beautiful wife and I both love Skyrim, we both find it easy to keep our relationship happy because we have skyrim for PC and PS3 so when one of us is playing it on either console, the other will play it on the other console. Plus we don't play for very long anyways so it's quite easy to still spend time with each other whether we are playing games or not.

If your wife isn't into games then you need moderation. Pay just as much attention to your spouse as you do to your game.

» Fri May 04, 2012 9:50 am

Married.

2 copies of Skyrim

2 X-Box 360's

2 computers

2 HD TV's

Marrying a gamer girl can get expensive but IMO, it's a small price to pay.

» Fri May 04, 2012 1:38 am

I met mine right here in these forums. In the Morrowind Mods forum, to be precise. We flirted in threads, then we PM'd, then we IM'd, then we talked on the phone. She invited me to come live with her. So I moved across the United States to Oregon, where she lives, leaving all my possessions behind except what I could fit in a suitcase. That was in 2003. And we're still together now.

Aww, that is so cool! I guess that's why I hang out on gaming forums, to meet like-minded people, make friends and maybe, just maybe meet THAT gamer guy.

I'm happy for you both!

» Fri May 04, 2012 5:14 am

ha yea because no woman on the planet likes a strong man who takes care of her and takes charge...the women who whip their guys into shape and mold them are the same women who long for a strong man like me and cheat on their house husbands.
This is from past experience with a woman who cheated on her guy because he was too tame for her and she wanted a tiger to take charge and ravage her :tongue:

Ask any woman if they would prefer a tame pvssycat or a tiger...but you give her the remote and your balls with it; i hear the "yes dear" thing keeps the peace in a relationship :tongue:

And punches her in the face every now and then, right? What does a guy like you say to your wife who has two black eyes? Nuthin', you done told her twice. Plus, guys who speak like you tend to suffer from microp3nis and premature ejaculation... keep dreaming.

» Fri May 04, 2012 9:50 am

maybe im antique minded but the old school has good sides as well...women say they want equality but never complain when i demonstrate the old ways of chivalry and hold doors open, offer my coat when cold or stand up for them when someone disrespects them. Im very respectful of true ladies and do put their needs 1st but a true lady shows the same respect by putting my wants before her own.

I would starve to feed her and die to save her life so petty things like letting me control the tv and choices in our relationship are just small ways of her appreciating and respecting her man...

Nope, the wife loves just how " old fashioned " I am, she has always said it's my strongest feature. The highlighted part is just a couple examples of " old fashion ", but it extends to more then my married life, if I'm out and about I act the same in public. I have had many a harsh word with youngsters in a public spot for cutting line, not holding the door, one example is waiting to get on the bus in the winter, I will stop all but women,children, and the elderly from getting on the bus, it's just the " old fashion " attitude of women, children, and the elderly first.

» Fri May 04, 2012 8:29 am

My Significant Other is more of a hard-core gamer than I am and plays more hours per day than I do. She's playing Wurm Online right now as I type these words. She's been playing non-stop for the last six hours. I guess I am what you might call a "Gaming Widow."

LOL

» Fri May 04, 2012 1:13 am

Actually, that ought to read "gaming widower," not "gaming widow." *sigh*

» Fri May 04, 2012 11:41 am

Actually, that ought to read "gaming widower," not "gaming widow." *sigh*

Beat me to it!

» Fri May 04, 2012 1:25 pm

And punches her in the face every now and then, right? What does a guy like you say to your wife who has two black eyes? Nuthin', you done told her twice. Plus, guys who speak like you tend to suffer from microp3nis and premature ejaculation... keep dreaming.

See the " old fashion " view of relationships is always put into that category, but in essence it's really not. The guys who do smack their better halves around are the guys who don't have the chonies to stand up for themselves so they take it out on the weak/weaker. A true man can be in charge and enforce it without using force, a true man will use his brain before his brawn.

» Fri May 04, 2012 10:24 am

Nope, the wife loves just how " old fashioned " I am, she has always said it's my strongest feature. The highlighted part is just a couple examples of " old fashion ", but it extends to more then my married life, if I'm out and about I act the same in public. I have had many a harsh word with youngsters in a public spot for cutting line, not holding the door, one example is waiting to get on the bus in the winter, I will stop all but women,children, and the elderly from getting on the bus, it's just the " old fashion " attitude of women, children, and the elderly first.

true same here...i carry myself with respect wherever i go, thats why i get respect in and out of the home. Im old fashioned too im just not old yet

I swear i was born in the wrong time, i belong in a different place and time...maybe thats why i like open world rpg games like skyrim so much

» Fri May 04, 2012 2:32 pm

true same here...i carry myself with respect wherever i go, thats why i get respect in and out of the home. Im old fashioned too im just not old yet :tongue:

I swear i was born in the wrong time, i belong in a different place and time...maybe thats why i like open world rpg games like skyrim so much :wink:

I'm a 70yr old man stuck in a 29yr old body, is how the wife puts it.

» Fri May 04, 2012 1:45 pm

See the " old fashion " view of relationships is always put into that category, but in essence it's really not. The guys who do smack their better halves around are the guys who don't have the chonies to stand up for themselves so they take it out on the weak/weaker. A true man can be in charge and enforce it without using force, a true man will use his brain before his brawn.

well said sir...a real man doesnt hit a lady, no matter how much she needs a beatin

In any situation I usually dont have to use force to show force and get respect, my eyes will tell you im serious and my deeds demand respect