Getting out of the house always helps my depression, although I'm somewhat limited by my lack of a car.

That post might be deleted, but for a lot of people, myself included, that just makes me feel worse.

I have a hard time figuring out how to alleviate depression for myself, I've started therapy but it isn't going anywhere. If it's a serious, prolonged depressive episode (especially if it's grief), just waiting it out might be the best solution. I know it's hard, and it's hell, but that is your best bet if nothing else works. (Aside from seeking medical help, but it might be better not to if it's grief)

I make videos or draw to aid with my depression.

Listen to metal, play games, visit the forums, eat good food.

Basically what I do 24 / 7 anyways.

I pick a TV show, anime or movie series and power through it. Doesn't really make me feel any better, but it's the only thing I've ever been able to do when depressed.

If you pay attention to what you are thinking about, you will notice you spend a lot of time going around in circles of negative thoughts.

These cyclic thoughts keep you in a bad emotional state. What you have to do is break them off every time they come up, and come back to reality.

After you have done that you will be able to see the emotional foundation of the depression, which is probably anxiety. To get rid of that you can do meditation and stuff.

Yes it is grief, sir.

That's the hardest part so far. It hard for me to see through the reality. It just hard to accept it. Not impossible.. But, hard..

Since you say you aren't fit physically to go for a walk, I would say your first step should be exersizing and getting into shape. Being more fit will give you more self esteem and confidence and thus it will lessen your depression a lot.

Listen to happy music and eat lots of sugar.

Try and get out, even if it's just a for a little bit. Go for a walk, even for 5 minutes. Call some good friends that you know will understand and support you, adjust and try to have a good time.

Don't turn to alcohol or other drugs, it will help at first, but eventually it will take you to an all time low.

unfortunately.. I left sugar long ago..
But, any recomendation for a good music or two to calming my soul?

Bobby McFarin's song: Don't Worry. Be Happy

I have a few: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=52KmT1fN_ak&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Enya is good, it's calming music: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EeYL3uhYv48&feature=youtube_gdata_player

I am often desperated. Eating cake and sobbing solves my problems!

I jog to take my mind off things also I seldom allow myself time alone with my thoughts, that would be bad.

Do some volunteer work. Find a project that requires a team of people. This is the absolute BEST thing you can do for your situation for three very strong reasons:
1. If you do something nice for a stranger, it's really hard to feel bad about your life. This is a fact.
2. You will gain a strong sense of self satisfaction. Even if you messed up your own life, you helped someone else in theirs. That, by itself, is an accomplishment to be proud of.
3. You will meet new people, and make new friends. This will also get you out of the house, and into some some social circles that will improve your life.

I can't tell you what I do, because the mods on this board are just spot on. I have my own ways that I deal with depression, that I find incredibly effective. But that's just me, and I don't advocate anyone else do what I do.

^^Now playing, thank you everyone

I didn't really like sugar

Volunteer at a hospital or nursing home or homeless shelter and do so in your brother's honor.

Then make an appointment with a councilor and go to the appointments.

Before you do any of that, hug your Mom and tell her you are sorry for whatever it is that you argued about. Drop the subject then after you are involved with a councilor and volunteer work, try talking to your parents instead of arguing with them.

Good luck. You need to learn to love yourself because you are worth it.

Never been depressed but if I were you I would get out an go hiking or swimming or fishing or something.

When I said earlier I'm not a social person, I meant I can't talk to others or I don't have self confidence to do so. I have small fearness of unfamiliar faces.

I've already apologized to my mom. But she still won't talk to me though. She must be still in grief, we all do.

Thank you

It's time to learn to be a social person as it is a necessary skill needed to function in our society. A good counselor can help you with that.

Try this one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzC4hFK5P3g

When I'm desperated, going out, or even just hanging out with friends solves the problem.

But even of you do nothing, time is the best healer, so I may take a while, but you'll eventually be yourself again.

Set yourself some goals in life, not on short term but on the long term. And as in goals I mean, try to make carreer plans, make plans to go travelling, see the world, I mean think of big goals, not small goals that can be seen as "hobbies" like "i'd like to learn a language or I'd like to learn how to play piano", but like "life changing" goals. Think about it and see how you can realize those plans, it sounds like you need SOMETHING to happen in your life.

So don't just come up with random stuff that'll keep you busy or entertain you for the moment but find something that keeps you busy but at the same time helps you to realize your plan, so that you know you are actually working towards something and the stuff you are doing is actually usefull.

You have to be carefull when you use the word depression though. I feel like the word depression has become a word that everyone just uses whenever they feel like down. However you have to realize that there is a difference between "feeling down or sad for quite some time" [which is not rly a depression, it is a phase in life] and "depression as a medical illness" which lasts for years if not forever. You have to be carefull not to label your mood with "depression" to quickly. The reason for this is that this label could easily work against you because you'll start to use it as a validation for "not wanting" or "not being able to" change your life. It can easily become an excuse for you that could hold you from trying to overcome your current mood or grief. I mean everyone goes through ups and downs in life. I have to admit that even now I'm going through a phase in my life where I feel like it needs a certain change, or I need to escape. I'm not down but I haven't really felt "alive" for quite some time. That doesn't mean that I should be sad about my life the way it is right now, or that I should feel "depressed" about my life? Instead I take it as a challenge to rethink my life and to take the next big step that'll lead me to something better. Maybe you should do the same....

also try to get rid of negative idea's...and keep in mind that the way you are feeling right now has a reason however you have to be careful that the reason doesn't turn into an excuse which prevents you from doing things. We all lose people in our life which can be extremely painful at times but we do have to move on in time.

That is terribly desperated.