Obviously I already knew that, if you read my post. The game presents two sides of the story that people believe just as much..Ulfric could be lying to try and seem more honorable, or it's one of those tales that got blown way out of proportion.
I was not sure if you knew so I posted it. If you then do not believe him when he tells you the truth, then who do you want to believe? If you doubt everyone's word then you will have a hard time finding the truth at all. You need to make a choice. Either you believe the rumours or you believe Ulfric. Either one can be the truth.
There is then no one truth or an absolute truth, nor is truth based on a majority concept like democracy. Even when you choose to believe one side of a story is there always a chance for someone to come and tell you a different - a third - version. You are never save from believing the wrong things and so you may as well choose to believe which ever you like best until a better one comes along. Try to find reasons why you want to believe in either of the versions and match them against each other. Maybe this will help.