Does "unattractive" mean physically ugly to you? : Othor Games

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 10:05 pm

To me, theres a Physical side, and a personality side. The Physical side doesn't really mean as much as the personality side, Cause no matter how hot someone is, if they do something vastly disturbing, thats just unattractive.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 5:59 pm

If somebody describes another as 'unattractive' then I instantly think 'ugly' :shrug:

That's not to mean that I'm under the illusion that "unattractive" solely means "ugly" - it's just its most common usage by far.

This exactly.

I'm aware that unattractive can mean anything from an ugly face to a rotten disposition, but if someone describes a person as just "unattractive" without any further explanation, I immediately think of physical unattractiveness. :shrug:

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 11:44 pm

Since attraction does not rely on looks only, it would be foolish to assume that unattractiveness and lack of the common person's beauty would require each other. For one, I find Megan Fox thoroughly not attractive, but Tilda Swinton very much so.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 3:51 pm

I find the way Tilda Swinton speaks to be extremely seductive, and I am a woman.
She has such a cultured voice. Really quite lovely.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 11:42 pm

It depends on the context, it never just means ugly, not everybody is ugly/beautiful, there's a lot in between.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 11:46 pm

I tend to think of the word as referring to someone who is physically unattractive.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 10:04 pm

Generally when people say someone is "unattractive" without any note as to which part of them they are talking about, it is fairly normal to assume they mean physically. Of course, literally, it clearly just means that because of some aspect of who they are, be it physical or otherwise, you are not attracted to them. But language is full of commonly accepted non-literal interpretations. You should probably get over it and learn to specify what is unattractive.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 10:45 am

Doh, I always say cute and funny. I guess I'm unattractive. :cry:

No worries, he meant children and family.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 3:00 pm

I just use it physically, when I'm referring to someone that is physically attractive but had a bad personality I'll be specific.

» Sat Nov 19, 2011 12:07 am

technically i find all blondes to be unattractive since i prefer brunettes.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 12:08 pm

Personally I use 'Unattractive' to mean simpy, not physically attractive. Though by definition it can oblvioulsy mean an ugly personality or mannerism, I just don't tend to use it, in place of other more favourable words for that purpose.

I suppose I can measure this with the fact that I could never call another male 'unattractive', whether or not I liked their personality or mannerisms. Nor would I, if I did like a girl say she had an 'attractive' personality, despite how the word can be used that way.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 4:23 pm

When it is said without explanation I usually assume it's physically for the most part.

This.

When *I* say it, it's usually a reference to physical appearance. If I'm referring to personality issues that I dislike about someone, I'll say it's a personality issue. I'm specific like that.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 12:02 pm

No worries, he meant children and family.

Phew! Thanks.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 11:41 am

No. When I don't like someones attitude, I just think they are a [censored] or an [censored].

Unattractive to me, means i have no physical attraction to them. Doesn't mean they are always ugly, but it depends. And people find different features (physical) attractive. So it all depends on whom thinks it.

Me too. If one of my friends thinks this girl is pretty or beautiful or 'hot', I might too, but it doesn't mean I'm physically attracted to her.

technically i find all blondes to be unattractive since i prefer brunettes.

I like brunettes too, but it doesn't mean I find all blondes unattractive.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 12:36 pm

Depends on the context. :shrug: I think you can normally tell which "unattractive" someone means when they say it. Or if someone did just come out with "I think s/he's unattractive", I'd ask in what way/what made them say that.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 1:06 pm

For me it means 'the whole package'.

"Unattractive" is not just physical. It's their entire product display.

That's how I see it to. The more qualifying factors, the stronger the attraction.

The more I find the pleasure of a person's company in demand, the more I find them physically attractive.
Someone I dilike being around, for whatever reason (usually attitude) the more repulsive physically they become.

I've notice the same thing. Girls that I was meh about when I first saw them, worked me over eventually with their personality.

And to throw a wrench into the works, there is also biological attraction. I've heard the reason some peoples B.O. (Or they just feel "off".) even straight out of a bath may be off putting to someone is you share much of the same DNA and it's natures way of saying "find someone else". Not that I have proof to back it up, it makes sense.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 6:05 pm

That's how I see it to. The more qualifying factors, the stronger the attraction.

I've notice the same thing. Girls that I was meh about when I first saw them, worked me over eventually with their personality.

And to throw a wrench into the works, there is also biological attraction. I've heard the reason some peoples B.O. (Or they just feel "off".) even straight out of a bath may be off putting to someone is you share much of the same DNA and it's natures way of saying "find someone else". Not that I have proof to back it up, it makes sense.

I have a roommate that I didn't know until a few months ago, (he rents my daughters old bedroom) we share NO DNA, but his own personal body odor is very off-putting for me. Not B.O. just personal smell. Everybody has a unique smell, and my nose doesn't like his. :nope:

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 5:32 pm

I'm quite open to wider definitions of it, but the vast majority of the times I hear it used it's referring to physical appearance, so that's the first thing that comes to mind.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 8:58 am

For me it's a bunch of factors. For example: a woman could be insanely gorgeous but if she has the intellect of a [censored] slug, that would make her unattractive in my eyes.

This. Or if the girl is a very snobby person, boring, etc.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 9:30 pm

It can, that's usually how I take it if that's all you say, because that's how most people define the word, even if I know it's not necessarily true.

There's no arguing over definitions, the word means what it means, that you don't find someone attractive. Most people are shallow though, so they'll assume you are as well instinctively.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 12:12 pm

That's how I see it to. The more qualifying factors, the stronger the attraction.

I've notice the same thing. Girls that I was meh about when I first saw them, worked me over eventually with their personality.

And to throw a wrench into the works, there is also biological attraction. I've heard the reason some peoples B.O. (Or they just feel "off".) even straight out of a bath may be off putting to someone is you share much of the same DNA and it's natures way of saying "find someone else". Not that I have proof to back it up, it makes sense.

Scent and pheromes most definetly affect me.
I even have memories associated with scent. I smelled something that reminded me of an old boyfriend at a friends house the other day.
It wasn't a particularly erotic or powerful smell. In fact, it was a combination or old books, old house, and fruit infused tea. It was interesting how much memory came flooding back.
Scents I also would normally not find attractive, like sweat, smell enticing when a male I am involved romantically with mows the lawn or does some other manly feat. I dunno why, but I like it.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 4:01 pm

Scent and pheromes most definetly affect me.
I even have memories associated with scent. I smelled something that reminded me of an old boyfriend at a friends house the other day.
It wasn't a particularly erotic or powerful smell. In fact, it was a combination or old books, old house, and fruit infused tea. It was interesting how much memory came flooding back.
Scents I also would normally not find attractive, like sweat, smell enticing when a male I am involved romantically with mows the lawn or does some other manly feat. I dunno why, but I like it.

Maybe because it means he's actually done more than sit on the couch in his boxers/briefs watching 30 seconds of every channel on t.v. while playing scratch and sniff?

I loved the smell of my recent ex-boyfriend, even when he was sweaty, too. It wasn't a stinky sweat smell, just a very musky smell. I could be blindfolded in a room full of people and follow my nose to him, I loved his scent that, much.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 6:52 pm

For me it's a bunch of factors. For example: a woman could be insanely gorgeous but if she has the intellect of a [censored] slug, that would make her unattractive in my eyes.

This
I may not be the smartest man alive but atleast I have some common sense and actually attempt to learn.

» Fri Nov 18, 2011 1:26 pm

For the most part. But some people just have ugly personalities.

» Sat Nov 19, 2011 12:58 am

You specify what is unattractive about her.