
i dont want to kill Lydia anyone know how to divorce her without killing her?

The three on my short list at the moment are Mjoll, Temba, and Njada. Gotta love those big Nord amanzons! Of course I still haven't met the Dibella priestesses.
At the moment though my favorite is probably Mjoll. Not only is she hilarious at times ("........ever since I was a young girl big enough to swing a blade...." lol ), but she has also been the best companion in combat. She kicks serious butt! 

The only possible down side is Temba might turn out to be a real harpy once you take her home. lol





Also, I hear ya man about Aela. Without the makeup she looks rather severe, like Ugretha at the Bannered Mare.