If they ever question you or try to pressure you into doing anything you don't want to then grab the nearest pointy object and threaten to shove it into their throat.

I'm sure that makes for an excellent first impression and a long lasting friendship.

Hold on, your new flat mates go "clubbing" and you're worried about what they think of you? Every time I see a line for some club and look at the people in that line, makes me thank my lucky stars that I am not the "clubbing" type. Straight to the dive bar for me.

Also, no one said you have to best friends w/ your flat mates. After you go through a few sets housemates you will realize this. Honestly I prefer not to be best friends w/ the people I live with. As they say, the fastest way to lose your friends is to move in with them.

Lol I'm meeting my new housemates in a few weeks. It's pretty daunting since they all know each other already...

Bah.

But seriously if you don't drink then it shouldn't matter to them. Personally I hate the whole clubbing scene, but I wouldn't mind going to a bar every now and again. Except I'm trying to avoid alcohol now since I'm a lightweight and I don't trust myself >_>

you shouldn't have to worry about what they think. if they are mature, they'll respect and understand you as you are. and i see how it can be a problem of share a living space with someone who may laugh at you as you put it, but their opinions and views should not be enough to make you fret over it, you are not responsible to them in that, you shape who you are, not them. and if they have a problem with that, then as it was already said, they are not really good maters after all.

You could always use it as an opportunity to unnerve them so that when they roll in at five in the morning you're sat on the floor facing a wall playing an imaginary tea party or some other activity that'll draw some odd looks. That'll weird them out and they'll leave you in peace. Either that or they'll join in. Both ways would make a good story a couple of years later.

I commuted to both art college and uni, had quiet nights in and out as well as bars and clubbing. Give things a try, you don't have to drink alcohol and you never know, you might enjoy the night out.

I actually hate not being a lightweight sometimes. Saves beer for later.

Waaah. I'm the only one in the flat!

Apparently I'm a day early...

Good, start claiming territory. Get the master bedroom and bathroom all decked out in your stuff. Also, bake them a pie for when they show up, first impressions and all that.

That's not a bad idea

Yeah, you can get wrecked on ecstasy instead.

They won't laugh if you don't go clubbing or boozing. Though chances are they will laugh at you for making a thread about this on a forum. Just sayin'.

The OP mentioned something about university dorms -- from what I know, most universities assign bedrooms to people before moving in =p

I don't drink either and I can understand why you would be worried.

There will always be someone who is obnoxious about it (one woman I went to a society dinner with spent two hours trying to persuade me to drink a glass of wine, before finally breaking down and admitting that she "was jealous").

However, I found that those who go drinking/clubbing will be quite reasonable about it - I had flatmates who liked to 'go out' from time to time and there was an understanding that I wouldn't be joining them, or if I did I wouldn't be joining in with anything drink-related.

You will need to be prepared for some awkward moments. A friend of mine threw up over me after drinking too much one night, but was advlt enough about it to apologise the next morning!

Hi everyone. Some updates :cake:.

A guy moved in whilst I was shopping for new stripey socks. When I got back, he ran out of his room to meet me and said hi. He tried to ask me lots of questions to get me chatting, so I talked, but when I asked about him he went silent...

... then there were periods of awkward silence so I went back to my room.

A bit later he knocked on my door to see what I was doing. I let him in and he started another 'chatting session', and said my toys were cute... then he asked about my freshers plans aaaaaaaaaaand I told him I don't drink.... there was awkward silence and he checked his watch 'oh I might head off to bed'.

I think I messed up

You did not mess up. If anything this guy sounds awkward. But at any rate do not fret, there will be awkward moments from time to time until you guys get comfortable around each other.

Jeez. Just stop caring about what other people think of you.

If he was genuinely tired then okay. If he was weirded out for whatever reason -- so what?

Actually that's weird of him: it's not even 11 and he's sleeping. he kl lopl

...toys?

Jealous of what?

Probably jealous of not falling to peer pressure so easily.

I can hear music coming from his room...


But I don't want to be all alone
My friend can't come to Uni any more. She's on medical leave

That's why the internet exists (:

But seriously don't worry about him. Last year I excused myself from my housemates and their friends quite a lot and said that I was going to sleep, but I just sat there listening to music.

He won't be your only housemate anyway; I'm sure you'll bond with one of the others.

What's wrong with clubbing?

Don't let any of them steal your pants.