If you are s teetotaler, live in an area with little choice of clubs, don't like loud music and go alone or with the wrong people: a lot.

But I wouldn't worry about it too much, OP- I spent my first night in halls at Uni in my room alone, depressed and playing Oblivion into the early hours of the morning. I didn't even introduce myself properly to my flatmates (and there were 19 down my corridor) for the first few days. It then didn't take too long to break the ice, once everyone else had taken the opportunity to settle in and- a few disappointing nights out aside- it wasn't long before I learned who were the nicer people and who were best avoided. Three of my flatmates I eventually came to trust enough to live with in private accommodation for the rest of my time at uni, and I hope to stay in touch with them for a long time to come.

Pro-tip: If you have a kitchen area (however small) save yourself some space for some hot drinks/fruit juice and snacks so you can pop in and out frequently. Given that everyone will need to use a kitchen at some point, they are a great place to strike up group conversations, and you'll be too busy cooking/eating for it to feel particularly awkward. The drinks and snacks are also good to offer to any visitors you may have, especially if you made them yourself!

Just tell them you don't do that. I've done that to everyone I've roomed with and they haven't laughed at me even though they party. Just tell them the truth right off the bat. Don't even say you do sometimes.

If they don't respect what you say, then they are the ones who need to grow up.

Teetotallers: scum of the earth.

Be less awkward?

Move out?

Go back to the Gymnasium with the rest of Lambda Lambda Lambda?

Be less of a Felix and more of an Oscar?

I don't mind those, people who don't drink drive me insane though.

Actually yeah I'm thinking of straight-edge people. Bloody alcohol.

Forgot to add a couple things. IF you end up being the only one who doesn't party, that still doesn't mean that "majority rules" when they want to bring the party back to the dormitory. Make sure you make it perfectly clear that as you don't out to party, you also won't tolerate the party coming home to you. Have a house meeting as soon as everyone is settled, and lay the ground rules.
A couple that worked for me:
(these are good ground rules for any form of communal living, not just College/Uni. Dorms)
1. No loud music or telly past 11pm.
2. No parties in the house unless everyone agrees.
3. Only one guest per person at any given time ( with exception to couples or immediate family members)
4. Guests can't invite guests. (that's how unexpected parties start)
5. If a guest causes grief amongst another member of the household more than once, that guest shall not be allowed in the home again.

These all came about in the ten years I lived communally. I've been stuck with my fair share of roommates that brought the party home all too often, and it's no fail, it will be the only night a week you have a decent chance to sleep or study. Good luck breaking the ice, and I hope you are real close to meeting a few lifelong friends. :foodndrink:

You really need to chillax. You're over anolyzing. I'm sure the guy you've just met with today has not even thought about anything you may have told him. It's just idle chit chat.

Besides, everyone faces awkward silences. Just remember that it's the same feeling for the other person at the other end.

My answer indeed.

Just mention that you're not into partying, and you'll respect their choice in extracurricular activities, as long as they respect yours.

EDIT EDIT: Just stop giving a [censored] and roll with it. And most of all, don't be a fun hater to them.

Well gee, sorry for existing.

Well I don't mind them, as long as they try not to eat the fun away.

Which they inevitably do. Standing there looking superior.

You could always pretend your orange juice has vodka in it when you're out. You could blame pulling a munter on the non-existent alcohol in your drink and no one will know.

Or just drink coke and pretend to get high off the caffeine.

Any real drunkard knows the value of a friend that doesn't drink, and that value is DD.

I don't go out unless it's with family. I don't see much point in going to drinking establishments if I don't drink. Same reason I don't go to tanning salons or tattoo parlours.

Well, erm, I also wouldn't drink alone at home if I were in your situation. Unless there's football on TV of course.

Why? University is very stressing, how will you have fun and relax then? And you don't have to get totally wasted when drinking, you can just drink 1 or 2 beers and that's it.

Do people who drink drive you crazy? :rofl:

One or two beers? Are you serious? That barely gets me lightheaded -- and I'm a [censored] lightweight. Although I tend to drink spirits I guess...

But yeah what would be the point of drinking one or two beers?



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You're making things too complicated. Stop overanolyzing and overthinking, and chill out.

Or maybe we're underthinking the situation?

Damn it, woman, you worry too much. Just relax and don't worry too much about hanging out with your roommates. If you don't have much in common, oh well. It doesn't matter. Just be civil with them and reach an understanding on maintaining cleanliness of common areas and being courteous when it comes to noise and, er, intimate situations. Establish protocol, rotate chores, etc. Nobody ever said you have to be buddies with your roommates.

Chill out already

Pretty much that. Even then it doesn't even have to be that complicated. With my housemates last year, it was just using common sense and courtesy -- the main one being knock before going in each other's room and just respect for other people's property.

Too bad I am not your room mate, we'd get along just fine. I hate drinking and clubbing and those damn partiers. People who think they can only have fun when drowning themselves in alcohol with loud ass terrible music blasting into their ear drums make me sick, and sadly that is like 80% of people in this day and age.

A good time to me is being at home, alone, with no unwanted noise. Sadly, our type is often looked upon as weird. You just got to deal with it, our type is in the minority. That is why I would never do that room mate stuff, even if I had to commute an hour. I would blow my brains out if I had to live with one of those annoying clubbers.

I'm sure the feeling is mutual, xkira.