Yall never had a relationship. Lamenting over this should be much easier than actually being with her and then losing her. Don't treat her like a stranger, and I'm telling you from experience(previous at that), do not let those feelings consume you and convert into anger. Stay to yourself for a bit, and occupy your mind. They will fade. Trust me, they will.

Your feelings will go away in a month. Happens to me everytime.

Gosh, you sound like my friend. -.-

My friend (for anonymous' sakes) Daniel likes this girl name Danielle. They're always texting and talking and have been for about 8 months. They have a really good relationship and can count on each other, they share secrets and stories and talk every single day. They love each other the way one would love a relative. They're always saying it to each other casually because they do in fact love each other - but as siblings!

Daniel thinks something more is going on between them. I asked him if they were going out and he said that he didn't know.

How can't you know? If you're going out there's confirmation, such as you asking this girl out and her saying yes. Then you retain 'going out' status. But he doesn't know if they're going out. It's outrageous to me because he never asked her out and she has no romantic feelings for him. Can't he take the hint? He believes that everything they do automatically gives them dating status when it doesn't. It just makes them really good friends!

He has some relationship issues and stuff in his family that I don't know much about but I'm guessing that this girl gives him signals he takes the wrong way so just assumes they're dating.
____________________________

Sounds like a similar thing here. Where you guys are great friends and you feel as if you take 'ownership' of her and that it's outrageous that she's dating someone you didn't even know about. You have to realize that you can't "think" you're dating! If you ask a girl to be your girlfriend and she says yes then you two are dating, but just because you guys have a few casual conversations where you guys spill everything to each other AS IF you were dating, doesn't mean you ARE.

Some of us prefer the term "bastard hermit misanthropist". :hehe:

Put a mask of this girl on a dumb chick. Simple.

Don't pursue her romantically. If she's with someone else, leave it. Don't be that guy.

Like others have said, give it time. You said yourself when you weren't around her you were fine, and it was only seeing her again which stirred the feelings up. Maybe this girl you're going out on a date with isn't the one, but you'll find someone in the end and then when you see your friend again you'll just be happy to see her instead of pining for her.
I think some people need to step away from the Meg Ryan boxsets and realise that people of different sixes can be friends without there being a romantic undertone involved. She's clearly capable of pursuing a romantic interest, and as harsh as this is, it wasn't you, OP. But there will be others - trust me.

Time.

"Avec le temps", a beautiful french song I translated for you:

With time
with time everything is going away
we forget the face,and we forget the voice
the heart when it's no more beating ,it is not worth to look
Further .... Just let it go and this is allright.

with the time
with the time everything is going away
the other one that we loved,that we were searching under the rain
the other one that we could guess on the side of look,
between the words, between the lines and under the make-up
with a fake pledge moving away for a night

with time everything disappears

When that happened to me I started drinking and eventually our separate party groups meshed together as one so now I party with her every weekend. Throughout my history of partying I've found other girls that I ended up having a thing with. Sometimes I'll see my original girl alone somewhere and I get the same "I love you" feeling that I had so many years ago, but whenever that happens I just stuff some longcut in my lip and let the buzz take care of that.

Getting in the way of somebody's already established relationship is a Bob Saget thing to do. Don't be like Bob Saget.

If this wasn't so inappropriate, I would sig it.

To OP: You'll get over it eventually. I know it svcks, it really does, but life moves on. You'll look back on this and laugh some day, I give you my word on that.

Challenge the opposing male who has entered your territory and declare dominance over the female.

Nah but seriously, just wait and in the meantime, their are other girls.

This topic gives me déjà vu.

The man has a point. :shrug:

No pun intended.

Question: How does one get rid of feelings for a girl?

Answer: Become gay. It really does work, my boyfriend used to be straight.

As much as I hate to say it and risk sounding like a dike, man up and get over it. The fact of the matter is girls don't like guys who get these little Hollywood style crushes on them and think they're in love.

I agree with this. It might take some training, but it wont take such a huge toll on the mind. :yes:

In all honesty, savor your agony. :hehe: I can't remember the last time I had a crush on somebody.. I don't really see that as a good thing.

If you truly are friends with her, take comfort knowing that you are already farther than I've ever been, and ever will be.


I'd be lucky to have your problem!

Date her sister.

Ignore the trolls, brush yourself off and continue life.

I can be like that. I will think a girl is amazing but I get over it and start all over

The most rational post in this thread so far.

It seems like almost everyone goes to 2 extremes; either chase her, or run from her. I don't think either situation "works". As corny as it sounds, acceptance, I find, is the best solution. If you truly want this girl to be happy, then you should be happy that she is happy being with someone who makes her happy. So it isn't you, yeah it kind of svcks, but it isn't that big of a deal in the grand scheme. The intense feelings you have are just a combination of lust and platonic friendship. The recipe for love, but also the recipe for heartache. So move on from the lust, and leave only friendship behind. It might svck a bit every time you run into her, but there are more important things to focus on. The better you get at understanding these feelings, the more it will make sense in your heart, and the less tumultuous it will be on you.

You sound young, and we've all pretty much been where you are. One thing I feel like a lot of people focus on is having to "be" with someone. Feeling this need to be attached to a partner. One of the cold realities of this world, is that you are always "alone". This is different from loneliness, however. Don't strive to not be alone, you will never truly achieve this, only you can make yourself whole. This might not be something you realize until you've had enough time to experience both sides of the coin, but hopefully this will give you something to ponder at least. Don't stress too much about being single, and don't let someone become an object to solve all of your abject situations. Good luck, you'll get past this in time :turned:

I'm still in love 7 months since the relationship ended. It's been miserable, but once I decided to avoid her about a month ago it's got somewhat easier. I'd do that, and by the sounds of it if you do that you should be fine. My friend says time is the medicine, which I guess is true, but some people need to dose themselves with it longer than others.

If you ever start thinking about her, what she might think of you now, etcetcetc. tell yourself she doesn't care, that she doesn't give a single damn and doesn't care about you at all. Keep it in your head she doesn't want anything associated with you. True or false, it will reminds you to stop caring.

Also, keep your mind busy. It works wonders.

Tell her how you feel man. Make a lunch date or something. Discuss this or else you might miss that chance.

You have a hand, you have her picture, spend sometime together in the toilet.

:facepalm:

That won't help, Howie.

:rofl: :lmao:

That---is gold lol .

This is amazingly good advice. Make sure you do the same thing if you ever think about calling a girl, too. You'll know if it's worth a date if you can still think about her after somethin' like that.

My advice isn't forum appropriate, but it involves a girl who looks just like her and a cheap motel. I'm convinced it's the fastest way to get over someone.