Oh my

BGSF, I am dissapointed. The CD of old would never have so little JAHO in a relationship thread.

OP: Either man up, and Just Ask Her Out (you never know - it's entirely possible she likes you to but doesn't think you like her, or got tired of waiting for you to ask her out or something) or man up and get over her. We can't help you forget a girl, but alcohol certainly can but you can get over her by moving on, go out with this new girl and have fun.

No it's yellow.

been there.

no one trick works all the time. it will be painful.

it never does hurt to rub one out. but NOT thinking about her. that just makes it WORSE.

see if these work ( I know you tried 2, but try again)


1) decide if you can hang out as friends and get over her. if not, tell her you can't hang out for awhile, and will when you get over her. I have done this, it works, and if she can't handle that, she is too immature to worry about.

2) go to school on a scavanger hunt for new interests. decide that you are going to do a few things differently that day, etc. and see who you see that you usually don't see. what girl have you overlooked.

(I eventually married my true love, who was a woman I overlooked at first in high school. had crush on another. eventually, my brain woke the heck up and I noticed my future wife. she was hiding in plain sight.)

3) wait. time will help. if you start obsessing, go play skyrim or something. I reallly really really really really really was sure I would never never never never get over a woman when I was 21. guess what? I did.

if none of that works.

4) become the better you. focus on growing as person. learn to be a better listener, learn to think about other's feelings...learn to play guitar, write a book, etc....but do it to be a better version of who you really are.

I have seen guys mature and grow the hell up and THEN get the girl they were diggin on.

Sounds like you need to have a chat with Frank TJ Mackey.

Do nothing. Play some video games. You have a whole life ahead of you. Some people fail to see this.

And the following you had to say wont work for everyone. Especially me. The level of impact one has had on another greatly determines how hard getting over that person will be. You can accept that you cannot be with them. But you're still being tortured by the memories they have provided and left you with.

I recall Shakespeare had something to say on the subject...


There is but one true answer for thee
They only go away with a lobotomie.

This again? Am I correct and is this your second, perhaps third thread about it? "I want the best for her, I want her to be happy..." Frankly, you're getting nowhere this way. You aren't happy yourself. Isn't that important as well? Unless you haven't been as clear about it to her as I figure you have, she's clearly disrespected you and your feelings (didn't you basically say she's used you as an emotional dust bin?) and if I were in your shoes, I would have got seriously annoyed a long time ago already. Either make a figurative final full frontal assault on target or regain some sense of dignity and move on. Surely anything will be better than remaining stuck in this situation. Enjoy your time with that other girl and realise you have to draw a line and move on to be happy at some point. Not suggesting it's wrong to have feelings for her, you can't really control those, but you can control your behaviour.
Just my humble opinion and do as you like. No one but you yourself knows what's best for you.

Oops, clicked the wrong button, sorry. Please delete this. :facepalm:

Go hang around with friends, avoid the topic of girls when in conversation.
Alcohol.
Play lots and lots of games. Maybe not too much that you forget how to communicate.

God bless the bgs relationship threads, always entertaining.



Whoa you trying to win quote of the year?

To the op:

Sounds like you got used as an emotional tampon and then kicked to the curb when she found someone else. Don't worry it has happened to me and probably many other fine gents.

Learn from this. Don't put yourself in the same position again.

Also, don't bother trying to be friends. That's just going to prolong things. Move on clean and simple. If she's willing to screw with your mind like that, she's not worth it.

You know you can control your hormones by eating a certain type of berry called the Chasteberry. Look it up. Please...



But what if you actually do make eye contact.... Then... :sadvaultboy: :cryvaultboy: :flame: :banghead: :cold:

shallow a spoon full of cinnamon. you'll stop thinking of her for a while at least.

Give them the cold shoulder


If all else fails, disregard women acquire waifu.

It's not applicable to the OP's situation, he likes her but he doesn't want a relationship. DAHO (Don't Ask Her Out) might work...

I think calling her DAHO would end badly though.

Hahaha :')

Really? Because it sounded to me like she was friends with this guy, and then started dating someone. Just because someone likes you but does not desire you doesn't mean that they have used you - more like someone has assumed more from the friendship.
But I agree, if you've got some sort of Hollywood inspired notion that every female friend you ever get will end up in a relationship, or if you only see females as potential girlfriends, then it's best to stay away from women and not put yourself in that position again.

My anolysis may be harsh but many women ,especially younger ones, just love to have a guy around to listen to their hopes, dreams, problems etc. Females love male attention, even if they never plan on hooking up with the person giving that attention.

And for a young naive male it may seem that she is interested in you but really you've been put into the dreaded "friend zone." Not that being friends is a bad thing, but you've been put into the category of "just a friend."

And that means one thing: chances are slim you're going to be hooking up.

When I say don't put yourself in that position I meant make your intentions clear from the start. Don't act like a friend, act like someone who is romantically interested.

As far as hollywood notions go, are you for real? Most guys who are trying to be "friends" with girls really are really trying to hook up. All the time? No. Most of the time? Yes.

If you doubt this, please put it to the test.

Ladies, take your best man friend and come on to him. I will bet dollars to donuts, and I love donuts, that the majority of guys will be down for it. Unless the lady friend in question is pretty busted. Dudes are skeezy horn dogs and will pretty much hook up if the opportunity presents itself.

Suffice to say, don't hate the players, hate the game. After all these years, that still has such a good ring to it.

Its weird because I'm in a similar position as the OP except I've got 5 years on him and the person i'm interested in isn't seeing anyone.

Like some people, i'm extremely self-centered and don't have the time to be in a relationship but for some reason my mind is being corrupted by thoughts of romance and intimacy!

I tried to do the "pick out her flaws," but let me tell you -- this woman is a saint. She doesn't smoke or do any drugs, shes a workaholic, she goes to third world countries on her vacation time...she doesn't even swear!

Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode.