I take it you haven't read the Thalmor dossier on Ulfric yet?

I have in fact, and as far as I remember the dossier clearly states that the Stormcloak victory must be avoided in order for he plan to work. Ulfric was captured by the Thalmor, but it seems he got veeery uncooparative as soon as he was back in Windhelm.
I don't think anybody seriously says they're that bad. Well, wait. They do kind of have that good ol' boy charm that sorta goes hand in hand with a git outta town by sunset type mentality. Stereotypically speaking.
I know that, my main Nord is, or at least was, a little bit "no elves in my town" himself. But outside of Windhelm and Solitude even the commoners seem way to "normal" to jump to conclusions this fast.
Maybe I'm reading my own bias into this, but if I told you about a Dunmer and a Nord with a beer bottle collection and a rare book collection, could you guess which was which? The Dunmer came across as weird, insular, and disdainful. Nords come across as swaggering bullies with more muscle than sense. In short, elves are nerds and Nords are jocks. Does it really surprise you that a forum full of computer RPG fans are not very sympathetic to the jocks?
With the whole "Daedra worship to piss Altmer daddy off" and the "special" clothing style I always assumed they were the Scene Kids of Tamriel, honestly.

If any race in Tamriel is the nerdy one, it's the Dwemer, and even I love myself some Dwemer.
Although I kind of get the dark elf fetish, it's always the same since D&D.