[Christine Pane]

Question and please do answer because this could be the whole damn reason:

Do you make an effort to talk to her? Or do you stand there like a bump on a log hoping she'll talk to you?

Ok so you do try to talk to her.

Other question: How do the conversations go? If you ask her simple yes or no questions it's not going to be a very deep (or very long) conversation.

Also, if she's ignoring you are you persistent in talking to her or do you just let her go when she doesn't acknowledge you?

[Avril Louise]

Yes I am a gecko.

I made frequent attempts at talking to her today, I made the initiative and walked to the shops with her.

But she still kinda ignored me and only talked to her friend. :/

[louise fortin]

So let's get this right.

She asked you out once before, but you're not dating now? Why did you originally turn her down?

[ruCkii]

So let's get this right.

She asked you out once before, but you're not dating now? Why did you originally turn her down?

I turned her down two years ago because I really didn't know her well at all. I'd known her maybe a month.

Guys, right on que she's messaging me again.

I just do not get it. Haha.

[Dean Ashcroft]

I turned her down two years ago because I really didn't know her well at all. I'd known her maybe a month.

Guys, right on que she's messaging me again.

I just do not get it. Haha.

Ask her why she doesnt talk to you at school right now then. Either do it now and demand an answer like a man or hang in your jangly bits once and for all.

[Franko AlVarado]

I turned her down two years ago because I really didn't know her well at all. I'd known her maybe a month.

Guys, right on que she's messaging me again.

I just do not get it. Haha.

She's talking to you right now, bring up all of the issues you have. Tell her how you really feel.

Don't let this opportunity pass...

[SaVino GοΜ]

I turned her down two years ago because I really didn't know her well at all. I'd known her maybe a month.

I'll let you in on a secret...

Are you ready?


You sure?



Once you find out this secret, you'll never be the same again



I tried warning you



Ok



The secret




it's





well




the fact of the matter is





YOU GO OUT WITH PEOPLE TO GET TO KNOW THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[joannARRGH]

I turned her down two years ago because I really didn't know her well at all. I'd known her maybe a month.

Guys, right on que she's messaging me again.

I just do not get it. Haha.

If you can tell all of us your problems with this girl, you can certainly tell her. Now go talk to her.

[JD bernal]

Yes another one, but this one honestly has me puzzled.

This girl who asked me out once, messages me all the time on Facebook, but hardly talks to me in real life.

Like its every-

Just go for it.

[Alexandra Louise Taylor]

I don't even see why you make these threads anymore, you never do what anyone says. If you want a place to vent your frustration or whatever, that's fine, but if you're going to ask "What should I do?" and we tell you to ask her out, then just do it.

I'm going to tell you what you need. Not what you deserve, but what you really need. You need to get rejected. Now you might be thinking it's a bad thing, but no. You need to get used to it and get over the fear of it. You're constantly saying "Oh I don't know if she likes me" or "I don't know her well enough" or crap like that. Why are you asking a bunch of strangers on the internet whose advice you aren't going to follow anyway? Ask her. Stop beating around the bush, friggin' hell, I'm one ugly SOB and when I was your age I was fat as hell too, but dammit I was still confident as all hell. Yeah, I'd get rejected. I'd get rejected more than not, but did it change me? No.

Here's the deal, if a girl rejects you, or if you just stand in the corner wondering, the result is gonna be the same. You're not gonna get the girl. Stop waiting for everything to come to you on a platter. That's a bad attitude when it comes to women, and a bad attitude when it comes to life. No "Oh, I walked out to the supermarket with her" or "I randomly gawked around her while she babbled with her friends". Go up to her and friggin' ask her straight on why she's behaving that way.

If you ask me, she's shy and/or nervous. Or perhaps she doesn't even like you that way. Point is, you'll never know unless you ask her. And don't do some dumb grade school crap where you go to a friend of hers or write her a note or whatever. This isn't an 80s musical film. Take hold of balls and delve into woman.

[Bad News Rogers]

***WARNING: No sugar coating below***

You have three options:

1. Stop being stupid and just ask her out

2. Be alone for the rest of your life because you'll always continue being a gutless loser who can't string together asking someone out due to fear.

3. End up with some [censored] woman who abuses you, takes advantage of you, and generally treats you like crap, but she took initiative on you so you weren't afraid and end up too afraid of losing her to dare cross her (letting her step all over you in the process).

Number 1 is not going to happen. Ever.

[Mariana]

She's probably just nervous.
Or she's afraid of what her friends would think if she liked you.
Or she's just being mean.
High school girls are the most confusing creatures on this planet. Good luck.

They are also some of the most gorgeous and intellectually mysterious, in a good way. Ahem, the senior ones of course. *cough*

Ah, the trials and tribulations of highschool...
Never again.

Never say never my friend. If you had a chance to join my cult of reverse-aging and secretly re-enroll in high school as an actual teen appearance-wise, just to live the dream of "if I only knew then what I know now" are you seriously telling me you would decline?

As for the OP; indeed as others have said, JAHO. Life is beautiful and short brother. Youth even more so. CHERISH these times. Besides, in my experience it was always the girls who knew all the most interesting goings on; the most interesting places and people. You never know what might happen.

That is coming from a 33-year old who hasn't dated in seven years though, so take it with a grain.

[Sylvia Luciani]

Firstly be a man and just take the preverbial bull by the horns.

Secondly child love is such a silly thing (that isn't suppossed to sound as perversed as it may well do)

Number 1 is not going to happen. Ever.

Pretty much true from my time lurking this forum before joining I have seen a few threads from this user revolving around girl problems

DEFRON advice is pretty sound as well, can't argue with any of it.

[Tamika Jett]

Just confront her as a human first and ask her what's up. If you're interested, segue into maybe asking her out. Trust me, you'll regret the things you didn't more than those you did. Hell, you could end up like me. Tall and attractive yet too sixually hung up to ever ask out any of the amazing girls I met in my honors classes, never really getting involved. Then you lose your virginity towards the end of your junior year to some [censored] who's done half the graduating class. Not that I have anything against [censored]s...

Lol yeah, that post was all over the place! XD

[Lance Vannortwick]

Man the [censored] up dude. Seriously.

This. JAHO. JOAH.

[Ross Thomas]

I don't even see why you make these threads anymore, you never do what anyone says. If you want a place to vent your frustration or whatever, that's fine, but if you're going to ask "What should I do?" and we tell you to ask her out, then just do it.

I'm going to tell you what you need. Not what you deserve, but what you really need. You need to get rejected. Now you might be thinking it's a bad thing, but no. You need to get used to it and get over the fear of it. You're constantly saying "Oh I don't know if she likes me" or "I don't know her well enough" or crap like that. Why are you asking a bunch of strangers on the internet whose advice you aren't going to follow anyway? Ask her. Stop beating around the bush, friggin' hell, I'm one ugly SOB and when I was your age I was fat as hell too, but dammit I was still confident as all hell. Yeah, I'd get rejected. I'd get rejected more than not, but did it change me? No.

Here's the deal, if a girl rejects you, or if you just stand in the corner wondering, the result is gonna be the same. You're not gonna get the girl. Stop waiting for everything to come to you on a platter. That's a bad attitude when it comes to women, and a bad attitude when it comes to life. No "Oh, I walked out to the supermarket with her" or "I randomly gawked around her while she babbled with her friends". Go up to her and friggin' ask her straight on why she's behaving that way.

If you ask me, she's shy and/or nervous. Or perhaps she doesn't even like you that way. Point is, you'll never know unless you ask her. And don't do some dumb grade school crap where you go to a friend of hers or write her a note or whatever. This isn't an 80s musical film. Take hold of balls and delve into woman.

That posted gave me more confidence than anything I've ever read.

But say I was to ask her out, how? I can't imagine myself actually doing it.
If she had the guts to ask me out once upon a time and then get rejected by me, then I sure as hell can do the same thing.

[T. tacks Rims]

That posted gave me more confidence than anything I've ever read.
But say I was to ask her out, how? I can't imagine myself actually doing it.
If she had the guts to ask me out once upon a time and then get rejected by me, then I sure as hell can do the same thing.

Thats it! [censored] it! I'm loading the bomb bay!

[Wayne W]

Less over-thinking, more asking girls out, yes?

[Chris Johnston]

Look mate you've just got to put yourself out there. Yes she may reject you just like you did her but so what? Then you can move on and find a girl who does say yes when you make another thread about her

In all seriousness she probably doesn't talk to you much in front of her friends because you rejected her in the first place, her friends know you've done this and they are probably asking why she is still even talking to you. Maybe that sounds a little harsh but it's that kind of world my friend.

If you really want to ask her why she isn't speaking to you in public, don't be blunt about it but be honest, say something like

'hey I'm just curious why we don't get the chance to speak outside of Facebook. I really enjoy speaking with you and I'd like to do it more often, outside of Facebook/text.'

Honesty for honesty mate:

[Steve Fallon]

..Again.. you don't have to freaking ask her out. Just start off as friends.. Honestly if you're scared to ask girls out, this is a good way to combat it. Most girls prefer going slow anyway..


Edit2, Edits Revenge!: I don't think I needed to say much more than whats already there so I took the other edit out.

[Marguerite Dabrin]

So you two used to know each other. If you two going to see other every day at school, 30 days is plenty enough time to know each other. Well that what she thought until she asked you for a date and you rejected her. I know how she felt. Embarrassed, rejected and hurt. She is not going to hang around with someone that rejected her. She prefer hang around with friends that accepted her. She only 'talks' to you through face book.

Mate get some backbone, approach her and say " whats the matter? Why don't you want to talk to me like you used do."
If she not going to say anything, just walk away DON"T look back. Do not reply back to her through face book. Just wait. Seven days will be plenty. No answer, don't bother.
If she say something (I don't know what se going to say) why she doing this to you, then talk it through (face to face) with none of her friends near by.

[FABIAN RUIZ]

Girls are girls, they are only humans like you, just grow a pair and say something

[Benjamin Holz]

That posted gave me more confidence than anything I've ever read.

That's what I'm here for, man.

But say I was to ask her out, how? I can't imagine myself actually doing it.
If she had the guts to ask me out once upon a time and then get rejected by me, then I sure as hell can do the same thing.

There are ten million ways to ask a girl out. The only wrong way is to not say anything at all.

If you're more comfortable on facebook, ask her there. "Hey, wanna go out this weekend?" You could pop this in when starting the conversation, midway, whenever. Or you could ask in person. Do whatever you want, but for the love of God just take a step forward. Worry about problems when they come along. Don't die before the gunshot.

[D LOpez]

Keep your fingers crossed she wants to be your GF and not only friend...

[Johnny]

Your first problem is you're on Facebook.