[Lady Shocka]

When she's going out with you and asks you if "this makes my butt look big"

Nah that's easy, lie through your teeth.

[Emma]

Nah that's easy, lie through your teeth.

What if the big is a good thing?

[Eve(G)]

She's either nervious, apprehensive of what others may think, or she's just fulfilling some emotional need she has by talking to you (making herself feel better knowing she can get attention from someone).

But really, just ask her out. Not the "Will you go out with me?/Be my Girlfriend?".... That s**** it lame as all get out. Just ask her if she wants to go out and grab a cofeee at Starbucks or some sort of non-chalant dinner somewhere. Just go out and talk. Make conversation, bust her balls, and call her out on her wierd behaviour, but in a humorous and light-hearted way, just make fun of it. Being outside the obnoxious school setting can do wonders for people sometimes, especially when you're not surrounded by (and being judged) hundreds of your peers.

If she's interested she'll make the time to go, or will work out a date with you where she can. If you both have a good time then you'll know to make future plans a bit later (few days, next week). If she declines or makes excuses, just move on. That's the polite way of turning someone down without actually doing it.

[sharon]

As a girl, I can assure you, we're not monsters. We will not eat you. Most of us are quite nice people, and generally won't bite someone's head off if they a) talk to us or, even better, confess they like us. It's flattering, even if you don't feel the same way, and any decent person will treat you kindly after a revelation like that.

Of course, people can be cruel, but that's not something true only of girls.

Without wanting to sound like a misogynist, a girl friend of mine told me a joke just the other day after a discussion about dating. She said: "You're probably doing the right thing. Men find us difficult to understand. We women understand, and we generally hate each other.".

[+++CAZZY]

When she's going out with you and asks you if "this makes my butt look big"

"Hold on, I need to ask the internet."

[Siobhan Thompson]

For what it's worth, I'll share my opinion (which isn't too different from a lot of the others ).

As far as I can see, you've got three options here-

1) Either via Facebook or (preferably) actually face-to-face, tell this girl how you feel and that you want to take her out/have a relationship with her.

2) Do nothing and move on to the next girl who you think is your one-and-only, and talk about her incessantly and do little in way of trying to win her over.

3) Do nothing and continue talking about her and get ridiculed by people all over the world on teh interwebz.

I'm not trying to be a dike here, but that's really the way that I see it. I'd take option 1 if I were you, so just go up to her (even if it's in front of her friends, or especially in front of them) and MAKE YOUR MOVE.
You'll feel better about yourself if you just do it, trust me on this ..... unless things go really bad then you'll want to become a monk and leave the ladies in your past.....

I think I'll start chanting here-

DO IT
DO IT
DO IT
DO IT
DO IT
DO IT
DO IT
DO IT



I think you get the idea.

[Frank Firefly]

What's this "tough stuff" you speak of? Please elaborate.

Well, just that actually being in a relationship takes a lot more effort than starting one.

Just getting a date with someone... Sure, that's a lot of pressure and takes a certain amount of courage to initiate. But it's still basically a pass/fail. And if you were to really dig into what constitutes the "saving throw" in the mechanics of asking a girl (or guy) out, I'm reasonably certain that how you ask someone out, or what you say, is merely a modifier on the skill check - the base chance is already decided beforehand anyway. (ie, there's either enough of an attraction that whatever you say won't make a lick of difference on the outcome, or there's not enough for anything you say or do to make any difference.)

Even a healthy, happy, long-term relationship, however, has a lot more complications involved though. At the beginning of any relationship either it works out or it doesn't. And if it doesn't, that always svcks (breaking up is rarely easy, at least in my experience.) But the stakes are still pretty low even then, you've only invested so much time and emotion into the relationship. Get a couple years in, have a kid... That's where things get difficult.

Basically, getting any kind of relationship started - it's all about whether or not you're both attracted to each other and available. There's variables that feed into that, of course. But that's essentially what it comes down to. You can pile a ton of effort into asking that one question, but that's essentially the only thing you have to worry about at that point.

Myself, I'm a happily married man with a wife and kid that I absolutely adore. They're the best parts of my life. But it's still very difficult and takes a lot more thought and energy than simply worrying about whether the girl who sits next to me in Chemistry is going to circle "Yes" or "No," in the note I passed her.

Of course, I don't mean to sound dismissive. Like I'd said - I've done the angsty teen thing. It's always hard when it's you going through something, no matter how easy everyone else might say it is. At the same time, however, it's an age-old tradition for married people to look on the complaints of single young people and shake their heads in a bemused manner. It's essentially the "First World Problems" of relationship memes.

[Hazel Sian ogden]

What if the big is a good thing?

Then my friend, like me, you have found the key to happiness.

[Claudz]

*snip

At the same time, however, it's an age-old tradition for married people to look on the complaints of single young people and shake their heads in a bemused manner. It's essentially the "First World Problems" of relationship memes.

Yeah, married people are super smug Until they get divorced or separate, then they're just a dead weight in the group until they get over it. But I agree about the general nature of relationships. They are hard work and require lots of communication, compromise and compassion.

[Markie Mark]

When she's going out with you and asks you if "this makes my butt look big"

I have been with my gf 1 and a half years and she has never asked me that

[Alexandra Ryan]

She wants me to go to her house to have a "Step Up" marathon.

I don't if that makes me the "Gay Friend", so to speak (no offence), or if I'm "in".

She is always different towards me. Today she asked me to retrieve something for her, I was happy to oblige, but she was really shy about. Then she yells random stuff at me from one end of the bus and yells Hi! To me when I pass her around the school.

[Jesus Duran]

She wants me to go to her house to have a "Step Up" marathon.

JUST GO!!!!

[louise hamilton]

JUST GO!!!!

DO IT

Okay, that was blunt. Sorry. But, dude, stop thinking on the 'what if's', and second guessing. You'll get no where. I know, I tend to be a second-guesser, over-think that I don't act on it, because I'm always thinking of the "possibilities", always thinking, 'what if she doesn't like me', 'what if I offend them? It'll make me look stupid', 'I'm just taking this the wrong way. If she really likes me, she'll ask . . . right?' Okay. So that sort of mindset I have - that doesn't always apply to relationships - is a bad one, a sort of self-loathing one. Bad. Complete with being a pessimist, this makes it all the worse. I tell you this, you'll never truly 'know' until you ask her out. These, 'oh, but she might not like me', these excuses are of your own.

So she's asked you over to her house for a Step-Up marathon. Take it. Go. It's your chance, man.

[Bambi]

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/phone-beats-facebook-for-invites/story-fnet0gly-1226581702488

[Charlotte X]

She is always different towards me. Today she asked me to retrieve something for her, I was happy to oblige, but she was really shy about. Then she yells random stuff at me from one end of the bus and yells Hi! To me when I pass her around the school.

She is trying to "break the ice", so to speak. She wants to actually talk to you because sees this same issue you do. Except she is ACTUALLY TRYING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

She just wants to find a way to spend more time with you, and figures that a safe and friendly way to do that is to watch a movie in her own domain.

As for the random screaming and stuff in the halls, she is trying to get you to say hi to her from afar because she fears it up close. She is doing it in a way that doesn't show others her anxiety toward you, but rather makes her look like the "crazy and fun girl". Really, all she wants is to be able to say hi to you personally, but she sticks to saying hi from afar in loud and obnoxious ways (most likely with her friends,right?) because she knows it is the easiest way of initiating salutation without doing it in such a serious way.

She doesn't like the seriousness of it all, and you seem to lack charm and direction. This will go nowhere.

[Luis Longoria]

The Art of Manliness. I would link to it but last time I did that my post was deleted without explanation. Google it, learn from it, emerge as the King of Alphas, post results.

[Sammygirl]

She wants me to go to her house to have a "Step Up" marathon.

I don't if that makes me the "Gay Friend", so to speak (no offence), or if I'm "in".

She is always different towards me. Today she asked me to retrieve something for her, I was happy to oblige, but she was really shy about. Then she yells random stuff at me from one end of the bus and yells Hi! To me when I pass her around the school.

Just [censored] kiss her when you are halfway through the damned marathon. I don't care what else you do. But that is your one goal. Attempt kiss. Hell just ask her first. Kiss her in a similar way to what you see in the damned movies if that helps. You have your mission. If it isn't accomplished I will rally up this forum to boycott your 'help with girls' posts. Results man!! For the love of all that is holy is the concept difficult? Have some confidence. Hell even arrogance might help you!

[Marcia Renton]

Just [censored] kiss her when you are halfway through the damned marathon. I don't care what else you do. But that is your one goal. Attempt kiss. Hell just ask her first. Kiss her in a similar way to what you see in the damned movies if that helps. You have your mission. If it isn't accomplished I will rally up this forum to boycott your 'help with girls' posts. Results man!! For the love of all that is holy is the concept difficult? Have some confidence. Hell even arrogance might help you!

If you try it like they do in the Movies 11 times out of 10 it will end in Misery

[Austin Suggs]

If you try it like the do in the Movies 11 times out of 10 it will end in Misery

Eh, depends on the movie. In my experience quite a few of those movie kisses do happen. But honestly? If the OP gets a slap for an attempted kiss we have some damned progress here lol.

[m Gardner]

Eh, depends on the movie. In my experience quite a few of those movie kisses do happen. But honestly? If the OP gets a slap for an attempted kiss we have some damned progress here lol.

I agree, we need a step forward. At this stage the rejection would at least give him experience if nothing else. Dammit, the girl herself is giving her a sign by asking for a "Step Up" marathon. Do it, OP.

STEP UP.

[Beulah Bell]

She wants me to go to her house to have a "Step Up" marathon.

I don't if that makes me the "Gay Friend", so to speak (no offence), or if I'm "in".

She is always different towards me. Today she asked me to retrieve something for her, I was happy to oblige, but she was really shy about. Then she yells random stuff at me from one end of the bus and yells Hi! To me when I pass her around the school.

Dude, seriously stop over thinking this, she wants to hang out, that is progress. Do something about it though try and get close to her while watching the movie, if the opportunity arises move in for the kiss (I would advise against trying to mimic movies real life rarely works like that). But JUST DO SOMETHING.

[Elizabeth Davis]

She wants me to go to her house to have a "Step Up" marathon.

I don't if that makes me the "Gay Friend", so to speak (no offence), or if I'm "in".

She is always different towards me. Today she asked me to retrieve something for her, I was happy to oblige, but she was really shy about. Then she yells random stuff at me from one end of the bus and yells Hi! To me when I pass her around the school.

She [censored] likes you, dude. You would have to try to screw this up. Or, y'know, not do anything.

[Jacob Phillips]

Why do so many people think we're supposed to know what the hell the answers are to these questions? Why is there a 4 page thread about somebody who doesn't know what a girl thinks about him? Seriously...

Every single time the answer is the same, every single time. Stop being scared of nothing, if you like her, just [censored] ask her out, if you don't, WHY ARE YOU MAKING THESE THREADS?

[roxxii lenaghan]

The Art of Manliness.

I love that site!

[Celestine Stardust]

If you're not going to ask her out, just forget about her. It's not worth your time to try and decode her facades from a distance.