[Andrea Pratt]

Your first problem is you're on Facebook.

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[Tanika O'Connell]

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/community/forums/category/18

[Ownie Zuliana]

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Well if you fancy flirting with girls VIA Facebook, then go for it. Just sayin' it's not going to get him very far in the long run.

[Alan Cutler]

Well if you fancy flirting with girls VIA Facebook, then go for it. Just sayin' it's not going to get him very far in the long run.

The alternative, not being on Facebook, won't get him far in either the long run or the short run. Something is happening between them. W/out Facebook, we can all see there would nothing going on.

[Brittany Abner]

The alternative, not being on Facebook, won't get him far in either the long run or the short run. Something is happening between them. W/out Facebook, we can all see there would nothing going on.

I didn't mean for him to delete his Facebook. I was just trying to say talk to her in person about it not over the computer. People are different when they are behind a computer screen. He needs to see who she really is. His problem is he is using Facebook in a way when he should be using this opportunity to talk in person with this girl.

[James Smart]

Didn't talk to her as much today, but she seemed nicer.

[Stacyia]

Didn't talk to her as much today, but she seemed nicer.

She shows a sign of weakness. Now's the time to strike!

[Alycia Leann grace]

Didn't talk to her as much today, but she seemed nicer.

So... basically you still haven't asked her out or manned up.

[louise tagg]

This thread was locked up earlier. What gives?


I was giving you the benefit of the doubt earlier and trying to help with the girl thing, but we can't do it for you. We gave you all the advice that anyone could possibly give right now. It's up to you to just finally make the move and ask her out.

It's not hard to ask a girl out. It's actually very simple but guys make it much more difficult than it needs to be. You have nothing to worry about but the rejection, and that's not the worst thing in the world. I've been shot down by a really hot girl telling me she already had a boyfriend right in front of my entire class. But they all gave me props for having the balls to ask her out then.

This is where Nike's motto comes in handy. Just Do It!

[Nikki Lawrence]

[censored] [censored] man. She probably doesn't want to talk to you in public because you embarrassed her by rejecting her 2 years ago, people remember those things. So around her friends she tries to play it off like she isn't interested anymore. But she probably likes you because she keeps talking to you. Grow a pair and ask her. You might just be surprised with the results.

[Chloe Botham]

Didn't talk to her as much today, but she seemed nicer.

You are EXACTLY like one of my freinds from college, he always goes on about a girl he met at work or something and i am always telling him to grow a pair and ask them out but he never does.

You need to just go up to her and ask, it doesn't take a lot of effort to produce a few sentences.

[Hannah Barnard]

You are EXACTLY like one of my freinds from college, he always goes on about a girl he met at work or something and i am always telling him to grow a pair and ask them out but he never does.

You need to just go up to her and ask, it doesn't take a lot of effort to produce a few sentences.

All he has to say is...

"Hey baby, I see you been looking at me. I know what you're thinking. And I finally grew a pair and gonna say this, we're gonna do some romance. And I son't care if you say no, you're just gonna have to deal with it."

[Alan Cutler]

The folks here are talking sense, my good man. And I never thought I'd quote Mr. Wilkes-Krier as a source of advice, but:

"I ain't got nothing to lose, gonna throw it away and talk to you!"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ZyhB1-Yb4U

[Breautiful]

High school girls are the most confusing creatures on this planet.

Nothing more needs to be said in this thread.

But seriously they are man. I got lucky and have had the same girl ever since freshman year, but I saw it all the time when my friends had girlfriends back in my highschool days, and I still see it now with high schoolers. It all boils down to drama. I thought maybe I was overreacting about how much drama happened in high school, but when I left to college everything I thought was confirmed.

If you really want the girl, then go talk to her. Even if she ignores you, or bring up the fact that she ignores you in person the next time you chat online with her.

[Brandi Norton]

Hey remember that one time when there was this guy who asked the internet why a girl does what she does instead of asking her himself?

[NAkeshIa BENNETT]

From what I am learning reading this thread most advice won't be taken and it has been said many, many times. Just ask her out, it doesn't matter how. Do you have her number? How about facebook, or hell walk up to her; somehow say the words "Wanna go out this weekend?" I said those same words to my now fiance five years ago, it does work. Worst thing that could happen is she says no and you move on.

[I’m my own]

I don't even see why you make these threads anymore, you never do what anyone says. If you want a place to vent your frustration or whatever, that's fine, but if you're going to ask "What should I do?" and we tell you to ask her out, then just do it.

I'm going to tell you what you need. Not what you deserve, but what you really need. You need to get rejected. Now you might be thinking it's a bad thing, but no. You need to get used to it and get over the fear of it. You're constantly saying "Oh I don't know if she likes me" or "I don't know her well enough" or crap like that. Why are you asking a bunch of strangers on the internet whose advice you aren't going to follow anyway? Ask her. Stop beating around the bush, friggin' hell, I'm one ugly SOB and when I was your age I was fat as hell too, but dammit I was still confident as all hell. Yeah, I'd get rejected. I'd get rejected more than not, but did it change me? No.

Here's the deal, if a girl rejects you, or if you just stand in the corner wondering, the result is gonna be the same. You're not gonna get the girl. Stop waiting for everything to come to you on a platter. That's a bad attitude when it comes to women, and a bad attitude when it comes to life. No "Oh, I walked out to the supermarket with her" or "I randomly gawked around her while she babbled with her friends". Go up to her and friggin' ask her straight on why she's behaving that way.

If you ask me, she's shy and/or nervous. Or perhaps she doesn't even like you that way. Point is, you'll never know unless you ask her. And don't do some dumb grade school crap where you go to a friend of hers or write her a note or whatever. This isn't an 80s musical film. Take hold of balls and delve into woman.

You know, that's probably the best advice you're going to get around here.

I can sympathize. I was pretty much paralyzed with teenage angst during my highschool years. I was basically obsessed with the same girl all through highschool - to the exclusion of anyone else. So of course, it wasn't until my senior year that I gathered the courage to ask her out (and even then, my grand gesture was to write her note. Talk about passive aggressive romance...) And again, of course, it turned out that she'd got into a relationship just the week before.

The thing was, though - after all that anxiety, and years of pining; it was actually a relief. Regardless of the result I simply felt better having got things out in the open so that I could stop worrying about it finally. The rejection (and actually it was a pretty nice let-down; we were never friends after, but at least I could talk to her in a natural and un-creepy manner,) was less painful than all that build-up anyway.

Of course, that's easy to say, and less so to actually accomplish. But it is true - once you get over the fear of rejection, it does become a lot easier to JAHO. I used to think of it kind of like going to a job interview. Sure, I was crazy nervous for my first one (and it wasn't even for a good job - I just didn't want to get turned down, and it was scary because it was something new and unknown.) But after the first couple of job interviews, it gets pretty easy. I actually have fun with them now, and rarely get very nervous at all.

It was some years into college before I could really just go up and start a conversation with a girl I liked, but it did gradually get easier with practice. The hard part is simply taking that first step, but it does get easier and easier. What worked for me is to just treat it like ripping off a band-aid - don't think about it; just jump in and do it before you have time to get nervous (there'll be plenty of time for that later.)

Besides - the real tough stuff comes much later on in a relationship.

[danni Marchant]

Besides - the real tough stuff comes much later on in a relationship.

That's just dirty. Anyway you don't want to scare him he can't even ask a girl out, I dread thinking how he would get the courage to propose

[Andrea P]

"Hey baby, I see you been looking at me. I know what you're thinking. And I finally grew a pair and gonna say this, we're gonna do some romance. And I son't care if you say no, you're just gonna have to deal with it."

LOLOL this is foolproof. If a boy I liked in high school said this to me I'd be like, "Holy [censored]! Lead the waay!"

but in all seriousness, you should just man up. Don't play no elementary [censored], your in high school, a what, a junior? You'll be finding out real soon that it's so much rewarding to be up front with a girl than play games with her. By you not saying anything, and you guys only really talking on Facebook, she probably thinks you don't like her. Just assumptions coming from a girl who went through high school. haha

[Isaiah Burdeau]

As a girl, I can assure you, we're not monsters. We will not eat you. Most of us are quite nice people, and generally won't bite someone's head off if they a) talk to us or, even better, confess they like us. It's flattering, even if you don't feel the same way, and any decent person will treat you kindly after a revelation like that.

Of course, people can be cruel, but that's not something true only of girls.

[Robyn Lena]

As a girl, I can assure you, we're not monsters. We will not eat you.

Says you.

[Sandeep Khatkar]

Take it from me.

She's just nervous.

First, there are some questions to answer. We know this girl likes you. Do you like her? Do you talk to her regularly? Are these flirtatious conversations consistent?

Once we answer those we can move on. Assuming you like this girl (because if you didn't, you wouldn't have made this thread in the first place, would you?), I will say that you should stop this nervousness as soon as you can. If you like her, and she likes you, but you guys only ever talk over the internet and through text (where it's "safe"), your relationship will slowly evolve into one of those "text-only relationships", which are not only annoying for the both of you, but are also quite embarrassing to tell others about.

Again, assuming you like this girl, stop the nervousness. Be "the man", and make the first move. She will not feel comfortable around you (as a result of your lovey-dovey conversations, etc.) unless you initiate the comfort.
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If you don't like this girl, then just slowly back out of this. There is no point in carrying this on if you don't like her. You will hurt her feelings.

I know you might like the attention, but it's hardly worth it. Getting attention from someone you don't care for is like not getting attention at all.

[Ashley Clifft]

As a girl, I can assure you, we're not monsters. We will not eat you. Most of us are quite nice people, and generally won't bite someone's head off if they a) talk to us or, even better, confess they like us. It's flattering, even if you don't feel the same way, and any decent person will treat you kindly after a revelation like that.

Of course, people can be cruel, but that's not something true only of girls.

It's it's a .....a GIRL! EWW! run to the he-man woman's hater club!

[Jessica Stokes]

Didn't talk to her as much today, but she seemed nicer.

Just go talk to her man. Stop waiting for her to come to you. She already asked you out once and you said no. Girls remember that stuff and she's not going to go and try to ask you out again because as far as she knows, you want nothing to do with her.

In the word of Nike, Just Do It!

As a girl, I can assure you, we're not monsters. We will not eat you. Most of us are quite nice people, and generally won't bite someone's head off if they a) talk to us or, even better, confess they like us. It's flattering, even if you don't feel the same way, and any decent person will treat you kindly after a revelation like that.

Of course, people can be cruel, but that's not something true only of girls.

Nonsense! Lies, slander and false hope is all this is!

Lol


On a more serious note, as a woman, you would like to know if someone had a crush on you even if you didn't particularly feel the same towards that boy right?

Also, if a boy you didn't like in that way asked you out, how exactly would you turn them down? Be honest now. I won't judge, I'm just curious.

Besides - the real tough stuff comes much later on in a relationship.

What's this "tough stuff" you speak of? Please elaborate.

[Sophie Miller]

What's this "tough stuff" you speak of? Please elaborate.

When she's going out with you and asks you if "this makes my butt look big"