Yeah I have the +1 estus from upgrading it with her the first time..how do I get to new londo, and by the forest do you mean the Darkroot basin and such that I reach through the basemant?
Anyway I keep trying, if it were not for the flames from the 2nd gargoyle I think i'd have it now..but yeah maybe a good idea to go exploring a bit.
The forest can be reach by going from the fire link shrine, up the elevator to the church, past the church to a place with a blacksmith. The forest is just outside that place.
As for new londo ruins, it's under the firelink shrine. If you are looking at the NPC sitting next to the firelink bonfire, look where he is looking and to your right. There's stairs leading down. That's new londo ruins eventually. (just past the female who upgrades your estus flasks). Only a few levels under your belt and a better estus flask will turn your struggle to victory.
*note* when you go to new londo ruins, don't bother attacking the ghosts there. You can only harm them if you are cursed (by the real curse or a temporary curse from a rare consumable). Just run past them and look for the fire keepers soul. It's in the very beginning once you've started to encounter ghosts. Prepare to die there, so don't bother going as a human form with 1000000 souls in there, whatever you have on you at the time of going there, consider it a sacrifice for a better estus flask.