I understand the concerns stated in the beginning of this topic, but they provide an incomplete picture. Consider:
- Adopting some kids despite knowing that there are plenty of more appropriate parents who will be with them the whole time and dont have dangerous enemies
This is not modern times, where adoption agencies have five-year waiting lists and orphanages are a rarity. Do you think that a boy like Aventus would be left alone in his family home for weeks in the world we know? Life is HARSH for orphaned kids in Skyrim. They are lonely, unwanted, barely cared-for. Honorhall only exists because the Black-briars fund it. Lucia, when you find her, will be begging on the streets of Whiterun. The Dragonborn's home will be a port in a very rough storm for them.
- Moving your wife and kids from the safety and comfort of a city to a house you have built in the middle of nowhere.
As opposed to Riften, ridden with crime and seated atop the Ratway? Or Markarth, which is plagued by Forsworn attacks? Or Windhelm, which is an ugly place if you're not a Nord, or if you are and you're opposed to prejudice? Not to mention pollution, poor sanitation, and the fact that there are probably more skeevers in cities than out. Cities have their problems, just like the countryside does. Otherwise, no one would be willing to live in the country.
- A house that will be constantly plagued by skeevers and giants. And a location where they will constantly be subjected to bandit raids and kidnapping
And fierce, disciplined warriors who will guard them with their lives if necessary. Freedom and self-reliance are values that a lot of us have forgotten about, but the sons and daugvhters of Skyrim know well.