I can handle being single and alone for a little bit but I can't handle being along for very long, I become a nervous wreak. As for the extra spending on myself---I'm having some fun collecting Ponies [MLP:FiM], Star Trek, He-man and Star Wars but eventually the space in my room will fill up .

Idk how I would act completely alone, I've always had a brother about my age. I'd probably become Colonel 100 on BF3 and use a [censored] bucket.

Like this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IR4s4QswGS4

Why use a bucket when you can use this http://www.walmart.com/ip/Medline-Industries-MDS89664FR-Bedside-Toilet-Each/21781754 . Now you can become General 1000!!!!

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Single: When I am single, I enjoy the luxuries of my money simply being devoted to my interests and hobbies. I have no one to cater to and no one to sink my money on. And I always have my friends.
In A Relationship: When I am in a relationship, I enjoy the love of another person. I enjoy the intimacy that we share and value it. I enjoy the warm embrace as we sit together and watch TV.

Simply said, there are pro's and con's to both. Just take life in stride and wait for her to come to you. She [a great girl] will eventually.

Yep. You got a context high. You'll find this to come back and haunt you, probably in the form of suppressed memories.

Nah. Even if you use pot most cops just write you a ticket.

What?

My post was a joke adding to HM's sarcastically charged joke.

I don't think he's actually worried about a cop writing him a ticket over having been near an illegal substance once...

I thought he was srs?

My current girlfriend has been with me for almost 2 years, starting when I was a freshman. If I didn't have the balls to ask her out, I might have never met the possible love of my life.

Maybe this has something to do with it. - "I'm only fourteen". (I'll explain this further later in the post)

That and the fact that there was a lot of questionable behaviour in your post. Some of your actions were just as agregious as her.

You want someone to go over your post, then I'll go over your post. You may not like what I have to say though.



Before I begin with the rest of the post, I wanted to confront this. You said in your post in regards to the girl that you "deserve her", but after seeing her mingle with other boys you verbally abuse her by calling her names then even go as far as pushing her. And you wonder why she dislikes you again? She wasn't your girlfriend, so she can mingle and flirt with whom ever she chooses and it's not your position to question the girl on that.

This part is what really made me cringe. Her "hating" you after you called her names and shoved her was "unfair" to you... because she's been treated worse by others. How in the hell does that justify your actions? So she should be with you because you will treat her less bad?

Now on to the rest of it.



This leads me to why I brought up your age earlier in this post.

I'm not saying your age makes your knowledge on the subject any less vaild, but at 14 it's just hard to really know what love is. Especially at such an early time in your life when you hadn't had any experience with any other girls.

Guys, and girls as well, almost always think the first person they date or first person they were serious with is "the love of their life". It's just they never experienced a relationship like that before. It's not uncommon.

You fell in love with her even after barely knowing her, and not even knowing her at all on an emotional level? It's difficult to fall in love with someone without knowing them outside of a school or work setting. That's what I was saying above when people often mistake their feelings as love early on in their life after their first relationship.



This here is you being jealous. Just because a girl previously flirted with you doesn't mean you were dating. Some girls tend to flirt much more than others and some with a lot of different boys.



Knowing someone longer than someone else doesn't give you the rights over that person. That's such a strange way to look at this. Also, more than one person can love someone. Even if you did love her, it doesn't mean she loves you. I don't know why you don't understand that. Someone doesn't have to be with you just because you want them to.

Like i mentioned above, girls like to flirt. And flirting doesn't always mean that a girl "likes" you. People flirt with others literally all the time. It's just fun and it doesn't necessarily mean that person is interested in having a relationship with you.



This is a weird statement. You didn't necessarily deserve the way she treated you, but she didn't always deserve the way you treated her either. Just because she wasn't always the nicest to you doesn't justify all of your actions.


The main point I'm trying to get across is that just because you like her, does not mean she has to like you. And it's quite obvious after reading your post that she's not interested in you as a boyfriend. She asked you out once and you blew the chance. Your strange behaviour towards her, including about how she acts around other boys, even when you two aren't dating, certainly isn't going to win her over.

You can't 'deserve' a girl.

Whoa! Thanks for the responses guys, but they weren't the sort of response I wanted! I was just trying to add to the "Is it worth it?" conversation by saying what has happened with me. I was trying to say that it sht a choice whether or not you get a relationship. A relationship shouldn't be forced. The only reason you should be trying to get into a relationship is if you actually begin to have feelings for someone. I told my story on what happened to me to show that feelings aren't a choice. Pursuing a relationship in secondary school is pointless and a waste of time, but if you begin to have feelings for someone it isn't really a choice.

So thanks for the input everyone, but I really was just trying a prove a point...

Your point was wrong.

Ya' know, I've spent a while thinking about my thoughts on this subject, .... and I've got nothing.

When I was in high school I was forbidden from dating, and, honestly, never encouraged afterwards from pursuing any relationships.... actually, I was discouraged from doing pretty much anything that normal people do, but that's a different subject.
Anyways, on the one hand, it may have truly been for the best that I didn't partake when I was in high school, but on the other hand, now as an advlt I truly have no idea what to do, especially since things have changed quite a lot since my high school days. I try to have relationships every once in a while, but usually nothing happens or it all ends in a big disaster (without even having starting a relationship). I think my attempt right now when end up as the first option.


I know I'm late to this conversation, but oh well. If you want to try for a high school romance, go right ahead and I wish you luck (just remember to be safe ), but if you don't want to give it a go, then do your best to keep your head straight.

I tend to think that school is for learning. Relationships require maturity (having self figured out, knowing responsibilities, etc) and my impression that in the West, school age folks don't have those. (Or, not all of those.)

It was worth it for some though; High School sweethearts I think it's called and they marry later. But I am not sure it's always do to the effort (although effort does have its role).

Relationships are also about learning, about yourself and your partner and the bonds that you share and what you look for in a partner, and at that young an age the relationships aren't primarily about being responsible and self figured out, more about fun and comfort.
Not that people out Eastwards have any idea who they are and how to act responsible.

Hence Japan and that country's [censored] up sense of sixuality.

Hooray for broad generalisations!

We all like our pussies to be furry and clawed from time to time, maybe the odd tentacle too.

Every cat is clawed and furry - but tentacles?

High School romance is definitely worth it. I had MANY girlfriends in HS, many many many, and I can honestly say I've learned from every single one of them. It helped me prepare for my marriage, what NOT to do with a woman, and what a woman does NOT like lol. Yes, it was mostly all negative, that's why they are EX girlfriends. But you learn from them.

It's a stepping stone in the pond of life. It's necessary for one to develop and to grow.

That's like saying "Is practice worth it? Why not just go to the big game without practicing? It seems hard." HS relationships are practice for marriage and serious commitment.

High school romance is like practice for the real thing.

You should never expect "something real" out of a high school romance. High school is...high school. Everything is fabricated for your comfort.

Yeah, that too... relationships (at any point, I guess) have that to them.

East, West... I guess we are all in the same boat, all have more to learn. West seems to be at a disadvantage though, as West tends to be more me-centered. East, I hear, is supposed to be more community oriented, which I'd guess give some advantage. I don't know.

If it lasts into your mid 20s it might be worth it to marry, otherwise I wouldn't