So just be spontaneous when it comes to dating?

He's saying that and just be yourself. Do go in paranoid and overthinking things.

I'm not saying you have to 100% sure that you'll spend your life with someone to date them, I just think if you're 100% sure that you won't then there's no point. Basically, if you know your high school relationship won't last, then just skip it.

Basically I guess. I've found I've had better success with people I didn't think I'd have a shot with for whatever reason or didn't consider as being someone I'd be into rather than the opposite, bu I might just have bad intuition or something.


Again, going to disagree. Especially in High School actually, where you know they're less likely to be long term you're gaining valuable experience in relationships that you can't get at any other point in your life. If you know something is going to be temporary but you still like the person you're with, you may as well enjoy it to the best extent that you can.

i'd like to say that you should get to know them in order to decide whether it's worth trying to get romantically involved, but that seems to be how most people become friend-zoned, and then accused of playing some nice guy routine just to get into a girls pants and then crying friend zone just because shes not interested in you... so... it's worth it if you dont care about long term entanglements

In all honesty, you will know when you have met "the one"


Trust me

Mistaken good sir.

Don't get married/have children/rent or own property together and you don't have to worry about screwing up the relationship.

..And I thought I did. But to quote my mom weeks after my break up "Just because it feels right, doesn't mean that it is".

I started dating Haley when i was a Junior and she was a Sophmore. I'm 22 and shes 21 and we're still going out, thinkin 'bout marrying her.

So my answer is yes.

Not worth it. The love is almost always superficial, unstable, and it takes away from school and BGSF time.

It's not a waste of time unless you're not actually interested in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with letting it be. Sometimes, when you do that, you'll be able to find someone unexpectedly and get to know them on a deeper level because you weren't just desperately hounding for a relationship.

I think that the notion that you shouldn't end up in a relationship with someone if you don't think you'll spend the rest of your life with them is silly. I also think it's silly to stay in relationships in the mindset that they will certainly end at some point or another. Strive for a relationship with someone you love and are friends with. There's no need to think about the rest of your life with them, especially in the beginning. Just go with it and try to make it work and always keep tabs on whether or not the relationship is making you unhappy.

I have no clue to be honest. Part of me finds romance and love to be rather stupid ideas, with the only purpose to serve as a sort of world crutch that helps lonely hearts to craddle one another in a "tender embrace."

Only thing I can say is if you fall in love with a HS sweetheart, don't give them your class ring and make sure your romance doesn't interfer with a job/career choice.

Until a baby that nobody was expecting is involved then you get the joy of court battles and lawyers galore .

Dating in high school is a whole hell of a lot easier than is it once you graduate. Your chance of finding a girlfriend after graduation decreases by 50% and that statistic is even lower if you don't go to college. In high school, you're surrounded by girls and have classes with them .By being in classes with them you're going to eventually talk and get to know them. It's so easy to make friends and learn if you like a girl enough to want to date them in high school because of this. Meeting girls is the number one reason so many men have trouble finding a girlfriend and it's certainly not as easy as it was in high school.


I originally met my girlfriend in high school. We dated once back then and never saw each other post-graduation, We started dating again when we had a class together in college. We've been together for two and a half years and moved into a house together this past summer. Without high school "romance", I more than likely wouldn't have her today.



I don't enirely agree with this. You don't always date to find you're one true love. Going about dating in that mindset you'll never date anyone and actually learn anything about it. Dating a girl in high school and doing all the things that come with dating, going to dinner, meeting parents, learning what girls like, etc, is all invaluable and can prove vital when dating in the future.



Fluffy Kitten nailed it here. School isn't just about becoming "book smart". The social education like Kitten eluded to is just as important. My mom is friend's with a woman who homeschools her two boys, this certainly isn't the case for all home-schooled children, but these boys are so socially awkward that it's almost sad. They've been taught nothing of the social world. They're extremely intelligent, but they're now in their twenties and still have no idea how to act in front of woman.


I also have a friend whom I met in high school and he never worried about meeting or dating girls in school. Now he is literally desperate to find a girlfriend and constantly asks for advice on what to do on dates and how to treat women.

I don't think it's worth it. I got my bro's and bra's and excellent marks. So I'm going to refrain from doing so.

How did you get the bras if you're refraining from a relationship?

Worth it.

• You learn about relationships and yourself.
• You develop better social skills that are harder to learn when you're older.
• It is fun.
• You learn the importance of having a companion, and figure out if it has any weight with you.

It has nothing to do with six, but that can be part of it. If it does, EDUCATE yourself and protect yourself and your partner from unwanted negatives: STD's, pregnancy, etc. Take it from someone young enough to remember but old enough to have learned and reflect on the past. I'm 30, married to my wonderful wife, have a terrific girlfriend (i'm polyamorous), own a house, about to buy another (rent out this one), and have a 18 month year old son (4 Sept 2011). Be smart, listen to the wise, figure out what is best for you.


As someone else said, the stakes are low right now; gamble a bit just don't risk everything.

Ya know, high school "romance" is absolutely nothing like you see on TV shows. It's just not that dramatic. It's not like dating a girl is going to cause so much drama in your life and make it so you can't concentrate in your classes.

So there's no reason why you shouldn't have time to date while still remaining successful in school. Dating is basically just an extra curricular activity.

It can be fun or a waste of time. Just depends on how good you are with da ladies .

Friends of the female type, it isn't hard.

Pretty much.

Wasn't what I meant.

He meant actual bras... not female friends. Twas a joke.

Waste of time.

I would say they are, but I am dating my best friend. We might not last "forever and ever", but we'll always be friends. I'd say it's worth it and if it falls apart, you still have friendship.