Questions for the Ponies : Othor Games

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:58 pm

RALPHIE, fly far! Fly fast!

GOTTA GO FAST

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:15 am

This is after an argument I had with a few friends at the pub last night.

Say you dated a guy that is amazing (and perhaps somewhat above your league). He would have been perfect if it only it had worked out. You broke up. Now... comes a new guy. Do you judge him based on what he is or do you judge him by comparing him to the other guy?

» Mon May 14, 2012 5:33 am

This is after an argument I had with a few friends at the pub last night.

Say you dated a guy that is amazing (and perhaps somewhat above your league). He would have been perfect if it only it had worked out. You broke up. Now... comes a new guy. Do you judge him based on what he is or do you judge him by comparing him to the other guy?

depends on how much alike they are. if i don't compare him to the other guy, then i'll sure as hell compare him to someone else

» Mon May 14, 2012 5:57 pm

This is after an argument I had with a few friends at the pub last night.

Say you dated a guy that is amazing (and perhaps somewhat above your league). He would have been perfect if it only it had worked out. You broke up. Now... comes a new guy. Do you judge him based on what he is or do you judge him by comparing him to the other guy?

Er yeah why shouldn't they? Experience tells a person what went bad and good, and is a big piece of preference in choosing the next partner. I'd never look past that.

I do find with women choosing a (male) partner isn't solely experience, however, women are to small or large degrees influenced by male rolemodels in their earlier years and it can easily shape the way they define, especially in their inexperienced dating years, how to be treated by a partner or what to look for.

» Mon May 14, 2012 10:22 am

I should rephrase. Does the phrase "I already managed to get that, why should I settle for something less?" ever cross your mind? I kinda did that yesterday and my friends told me I was being stupid :/

» Mon May 14, 2012 7:31 pm

I should rephrase. Does the phrase "I already managed to get that, why should I settle for something less?" ever cross your mind? I kinda did that yesterday and my friends told me I was being stupid :/

oh. that's something else.
no, i see it as a good thing to not have high standards.

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:56 pm

I should rephrase. Does the phrase "I already managed to get that, why should I settle for something less?" ever cross your mind? I kinda did that yesterday and my friends told me I was being stupid :/

Oh I wrote out a long post to your previous entry but when I saw this my first thought was 'hell no'. How can one even compare people like that anyway? :confused:

» Mon May 14, 2012 1:25 pm

It's not something one can control. Women that used to be attractive no longer are. Can't say I'm happy about it. :confused:

» Mon May 14, 2012 3:06 pm

For the millionth time...What's the deal with the shoes?

Well, I own one pair of eight-years old Doc Martens boots. And that's it. What's your point ?

*Shrug* What's the deal with the shoes ? Well, socially, men mustn't wear varied clothes. So they need have few shoes. Women must have flashy different clothes, and then they need shoes to match. I myself however cannot be bothered, jeans and black top, ergo I don't have to collect shoes.

In turn : why do you have to act as if womenfolk are such a big mystery ? :tongue:

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:34 pm

In turn : why do you have to act as if womenfolk are such a big mystery ? :tongue:

THAT is a good question

» Mon May 14, 2012 12:44 pm

In turn : why do you have to act as if womenfolk are such a big mystery ? :tongue:

Men and women like to talk about how alien and incomprehensible women and men are, because it's softer to the ego than "relationships are hard".

» Mon May 14, 2012 7:01 pm

Iron Maiden (metal)
Obsidia (dubstep)
Battlebeast (metal)

I agree with these answers.

» Mon May 14, 2012 1:33 pm

In turn : why do you have to act as if womenfolk are such a big mystery :tongue:

Oh, you can be pretty damn mysterious...

Thanks for the replies...Got one more, a little more serious maybe: On the internet it's often assumed that you're male unless specified otherwise...Do people treat you differently when they find out you're women? Do you often get harassed by guys online?

» Mon May 14, 2012 2:40 pm

Thanks for the replies...Got one more, a little more serious maybe: On the internet it's often assumed that you're male unless specified otherwise...Do people treat you differently when they find out you're women? Do you often get harassed by guys online?

nah, they tend to be more nice actually

» Mon May 14, 2012 9:19 pm

Thanks for the replies...Got one more, a little more serious maybe: On the internet it's often assumed that you're male unless specified otherwise...Do people treat you differently when they find out you're women? Do you often get harassed by guys online?

Some people start treating me differently, some don't. Usually, if they do change their attitude towards me, they tend to get nicer, as zardoz said. I've been harassed by my fair share of people on the internet, but since I made the transition to a more androgynous username, it's quelled the horde surprisingly.

You learn to deal with the less disagreeable sort pretty quickly, as well.

» Mon May 14, 2012 1:58 pm

Geek+handyman is definitely an awesome combo to have around and I would miss it horribly. :biggrin:

Crimson got a good deal going on... she's set for live :lol:

On topic: i had about 30 (deadstock) Nike's... Jordan and such, but i only have 7 left because i sold them all for a sweet price... oh wait, i'm a guy :confused:

i love chicks... & kicks :blush:

» Mon May 14, 2012 5:48 pm

Oh, you can be pretty damn mysterious... :biggrin:

Thanks for the replies...Got one more, a little more serious maybe: On the internet it's often assumed that you're male unless specified otherwise...Do people treat you differently when they find out you're women? Do you often get harassed by guys online?

Hmm not really. I've never been 'harassed' but I suspect I do get more 'random' PMs than a guy would...

» Mon May 14, 2012 3:37 pm

Hmm not really. I've never been 'harassed' but I suspect I do get more 'random' PMs than a guy would...

I've never gotten one. It's because my avatar has a moustache, isn't it? I'm not pretty enough! *cry*

» Mon May 14, 2012 1:23 pm

Thanks for the replies...Got one more, a little more serious maybe: On the internet it's often assumed that you're male unless specified otherwise...Do people treat you differently when they find out you're women? Do you often get harassed by guys online?

Not anymore. In the earlier days of the internet it used to be annoying, like on CompuServe forums you could get PM'ed a lot with a female login name. Sometimes there are assumptions about what you must like and of course there are choice names people can use if they disagree with you, but that's just general rudeness and I don't think women get it more than guys.

» Mon May 14, 2012 1:31 pm

I should rephrase. Does the phrase "I already managed to get that, why should I settle for something less?" ever cross your mind?

No.

Do people treat you differently when they find out you're women? Do you often get harassed by guys online?

It happens, but I can't say I notice it much. Harassed... Rarely, and never anything that actually bothered me.

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:14 pm

Men and women like to talk about how alien and incomprehensible women and men are, because it's softer to the ego than "relationships are hard".

Relationships aren't hard, people are unfortunately excessively superficial and don't know how to select a partner, simply don't want to put out the effort, or shouldn't be in relationships at all. Effort isn't hard, people make it seem that way.

» Mon May 14, 2012 2:52 pm

Relationships aren't hard, people are unfortunately excessively superficial and don't know how to select a partner, simply don't want to put out the effort, or shouldn't be in relationships at all. Effort isn't hard, people make it seem that way.

very true, people are lazy and they love it.

» Mon May 14, 2012 11:26 am

Hence why the divorce/separation rate is so high.
Not saying some couples shouldn't get/be divorced/separated....just that many probably give up too fast, because it's easier than working things out. Hubs & I came close a couple times the first 10 years but we stuck it out and it's been great since. Relationships aren't fairy tales & sometimes it takes a while before they really mature into something life-long, if that makes sense.

» Mon May 14, 2012 9:22 pm

Hence why the divorce/separation rate is so high.
Not saying some couples shouldn't get/be divorced/separated....just that many probably give up too fast, because it's easier than working things out. Hubs & I came close a couple times the first 10 years but we stuck it out and it's been great since. Relationships aren't fairy tales & sometimes it takes a while before they really mature into something life-long, if that makes sense.

As I said in another thread. People nowadays almost always want to take the easier path or the path of least resistance. The Idea that you have to earn something is ridiculous to many people. Hollywood says love is supposed to be natural and is something you just KNOW is right. That is often not the case. True Intimate Love seems to be something that requires two people working equally hard to make their differences work together into a whole. If you have a spouse who likes to do something a lot, let them. But they better be doing something to make up for that with their other spouse. Give and take.