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Run away man. Run away!

How about a bisixual tranny's input? Good enough here I go.
Sure if I were you in your situation I would get annoyed with the touching thing first off and he shouldn't be doing that in the first place. Personally I would try to find some sort of well LGBT( lisbian , gay , bisixual and transgender) group that is around there but he should be doing the research. I know you are his friend but you are not his mother and have to do all the work for him. I wouldn't do much physical harm to him ether it might show that you hate him for being gay or just hate in general. And taking it like a phases isn't the best idea ether, just be friends with him like you were before, tell him just be himself. If it is a phase ok and if it is not whatever I think you should just support your friend and not try roughen him up I don't think that is good idea unless he kinda goes stalker or REALLY touchy touchy.

How could you know that "plenty of guys do that"? I've been through high school and if any guy I knew thought they were gay, they hid it very well... which is why I don't know how you know "plenty of guys" do it. I mean no offense, but if "plenty of guys" just means your own single experience, then don't try to convince the OP of your idea by telling him it's a common thing. But, of course, if you've done a scientific study, or can direct me to one, that shows it's so common, then I'm sorry for questioning you.

That said, I have known a handful of girls who, according to a mutual friend, told me they just acted bisixual because they didn't have any luck with guys. But I don't think that's particularly common for girls, or guys.

Take her to the bedroom?

Yeah, his behavior isn't really normal/acceptable, for any sixuality. You don't get all touchy with people who don't want it, and some of his other behaviors sound a little...stalky. By "came out of the closet", to what degree do you mean? Is it something everyone knows about, or did he just tell you? How bad is the neighborhood/school about this kind of thing? If it's just you and a close-minded area, he may be feeling confined; if you have some big secret or something of great importance to you that you can't just ignore, and only one other person knows about it, it can be hard not to vent it at them all the time. If he feels threatened by others over it, seeing you as a "safe" person he can trust will only make it worse, and the general emotional/hormonal stress of being a teenager is not going to help either. It's not easy to put a genie back in the bottle, so to speak, and if he had this crush for a long time before coming out, he probably won't be able to re-repress it now that it's been admitted.

A good therapist would probably be helpful, but it may not be easy to convince him to go through with it; many people don't like being told they need help. Just try and be forceful and stick to the subject, because he seems to be struggling with a lot of things and not doing a good job of it. I'm not familiar with whatever he's feeling (I'm asixual myself), but from everything I've heard, teenage hormones and sixuality are potent things that he's unlikely to be able to ignore. Just avoiding contact with him would likely end up sending the impression you don't want to be friends anymore, which isn't going to do his state of mind any good, as he's undoubtedly pretty vulnerable right now. If you don't know of any at school, you may be able to find local LGBT groups online, and if not get him to contact them himself, ask them about any good therapists he can be directed to. Because inappropriate touching isn't a homosixuality thing, and he clearly has some issues that need working out.

Don't see it as offense and tbh it sounds like he is complaining. Only thing I would say is if your friend is openly gay/homosixual in an extreme manner then it's hard to say how to deal with it. Going to the WWW would be difficult due to the vast amount of garbage there is out there. I would recommend your friend trying that GLAAD *Gays and lisbians Alliance Against Defamation* seeing how they could point him in the right direction. Saw them always operating when I was going to the CC near me since the honor society I was in had a room in the cafeteria near their room for their group.

As others have said his behavior is getting quite unnerving for any sixuality and may reach a breaking point. It would be best to point him to GLAAD so they can point him in the right direction be it a community for him, counseling, or therapy if he is having behavioral/mental issues.

I have a friend who said he thought he was gay in his late teens (father abandonment issues), but he "grew out of it". I asked him would he ever had considered having six with a guy and doing the things he does to women to him. "Oh god no, that's disgusting!". Well, you were never gay (and that's pretty much the question I'd ask you). Just because you admire and have a strong affection for a friend of the same six doesn't make you gay.

If the O.P.'s friend has no other friends he's putting all his emotional eggs in one basket so to speak (and that basket is the O.P. - as odd as that sounds). He should seek counselling to work these issues out and if anything try to attain the social skills to broaden his base of friends. Regardless of sixuality he shouldn't constantly be touching you in a suggestive way when you said knock it off. As far as that touching goes, you're not just being overly sensitive to normal contact that friends have just because you know he's gay now are you? I'm gay and I don't get all weirded out by my straight friends doing the usual light punching/pushing/slapping all friends do to each other. I know they aren't up to anything. :hubbahubba:

Maybe he be trollin'?

Blow your whistle and scream at the top of your lungs. Takes care of the touching.

My advice would be to make it very clear (aggressively if needed, tough love can be useful) that you aren't gay and to tell him if he has these feelings for you and is unable to control them, maybe it would be better if you stopped seeing each other until he is more in control of himself.

Obviously he may need support in his current situation but it isn't right if he is touching you up, that is sixual harrassment in the same way as if a man was touching a woman that didn't want to be touched in a sixual way and you shouldn't need to put up with it.

I was once approached by a gay man in a bar and my reaction was probably overly aggressive, but you need to be quite assertive with him. (Just don't push him over a table)

I don't think this is a good idea

As for me, I don't think I'd handle this quite as well as you. I'd probably put up a wall and never talk to him again. But don't listen to me.

I don't have any experience which would relate to your problem, but you sound like a really great friend. I know I couldn't have put up with that kind of behaviour. Hopefully he'll see how his actions are affecting you and your friendship and stop for the benefit of both of you. He'll never find someone else if he keeps focusing on you in that way.

Erm if a pretty woman was touching me I would (____Fill in with something appropriately vulgar and sixual_____),

I wouldn't do that to a man.

The Lord of Death once thought he was gay!? With who? The Devil!?

@the fishy wanderer,

You are Bi and Transgender? Why did you change your six if you are attracted to both genders? Are you more attracted to one over the other?

Simple don't be friends with your friend and never see him and talk with him again.

@Rhekarid,

Asixual means you can reproduce without the need of a mate. Lol, humans can't do that.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asixual -

JAHO bliviongate:

Screaming cooties and running away isn't a very good reaction to have as you get older.

I meant it more as in; "People do it without even realizing it," kind of way. Plenty of people switch there playing fields because they think there having troubles with the six they should be attracted to; Same as your friends. Its mostly just mistaking things for what they aren't: And I'm sure people do that.

In the OPs sense; If the friend doesn't have a lot of friends, and isn't great with the ladies, then he might be mistaking the friendship for more then it is, because he isn't getting it anywhere else. But thats pure speculation on my part.

You have every right to question me; Mostly because its my opinion. But I'm sure this happens to a decent amount of people. Not openly, of course, but subtly.




He told me he just wanted to experiment.. :cold:

Being transgender is not a sixuality, and has nothing to do with who you're attracted with.


What Orzorn said.

Rhekarid's post is great. I second it.

Sounds like he's relieved to have let the truth out at last, but at the same time it is a bit too much for him. I'm sure if he were more experienced and mature, you would not be having this problem. This is a stressful period for him and in time he'll be able to act normal. He also most likely isn't in love with you, but you were there for him, you accepted him and you're his best (only?) friend so, under the impression, he's probably seeing something that isn't there. He's having it much harder than you and hitting or insulting him is a really insensitive thing to do.

Took the words out of my mouth.