My friend recently came out of the closet, and ever since then he's told me he's been developing feelings for me. I am heterosixual, so obviously this won't work. Anyway, he keeps saying how miserable he is and how he'll never find someone as good as me, even when I tell him he will. I realize that being homosixual is alot harder than being straight, but does it get easier as you get older? I hate seeing him like this, and I'm afraid his love for me will ruin our friendship, as everytime I'm over his house he constantly tries to touch me and do other physical things. He repeatedly apologizes for it, until I told him to get a therapist. He is struggling with his attractions and since we are still in highschool, there aren't many openly gay men for him to take interest in. Can someone help me with this? Preferably an open homosixual?

EDIT: Sorry for the title. "Complaining" isn't the right word for this. I'm sorry if it is offensive.

He should get involved in social websites for homosixuals if the community is so small where he lives.

Well there's a gay-straight club at our school, but it's summer right now.

Just make it clear that you don't swing that way and never will, and maybe introduce him to a nice fellow if you can.

I'm straight, so I don't know how valuable my input is.

If he's constantly trying to touch you, then you should react the same way a girl would if a guy were trying to touch her- cut off communications until he shapes up. Of course she would also be able to call the police for sixual harassment, which you can't do as cops wont take it nearly as seriously. Just tell him that until he learns to stop trying to get in your pants, you and him wont be friends.

I get that it's much easier said then done, especially from someone on the internet who isn't friends with him, but you can't just keep letting him treat you like that. While I'm heterosixual I find it hard to believe any open homosixuals on this forum will tell you to do the opposite of what I suggested, i.e. keep letting him touch you and treat you like the homosixual person you aren't but he wishes you were.

This.

He keeps saying he is sad and that we should only see eachother publicly so he can't touch me.

And he keeps sending these EXTREMELY long text messages on how he's sorry and that we are brothers. Well I didn't know brothers liked to fool around! I told him to take a break from me for a little while and get some more friends (he has like none).

In all honesty, it may be best for you two not to see eachother at all until he comes to terms with the fact that it will never happen.

If I am alone with an attractive girl, I don't attempt to make a move on her if the feeling isn't mutual. I don't see how it should be anymore difficult for a homosixual.

EDIT: Try getting him into some social clubs, I doubt he will be willing at first, but it would be best for him imo.

EXACTLY!! That's what I said!

I have had similar problems on multiple occasions. Apparently, I give off "gay vibes", whatever that means. Although my problems were never as serious as yours, in the sense that there was never any touching involved.

In my case, I tried different things, including trying to explain it to him, but that never works. Emotions such as lust are usually void of logic, and thus have to be dealt with differently. I would suggest - depending upon him - either spending more or less time with him. More would be so that he could see you for all of you, meaning both your good points and bad points. Less would be so that the less time he spends with you, the more his feelings dwindle.

The latter worked for me, but the former is what a lot of people recommended.

So, just avoid him for a long, long time. Granted this may be difficult, but if things get too serious, you might want to actually seek out legal action. I sincerely hope it doesn't come to that though.

@Holy Assassin,

Which end were you on? Mine or his?

Yours. I'm straight.

he's still a guy, no matter how gay, so at some level, this should still work:






"Dude..., I, *will* punch you." And then whack him in the shoulder with a knuckler..


guy thing.

It works on girls too!

Kidding of course.

:whistling:

Too far?

I told him something like that, but he got offended like I wasn't taking him seriously.

Haha

He joined the Escapist Magazine forum.

He wants to do FaceTime with me now, but I really don't wanna talk to him.

You could always experiment...... Just sayin :unsure:

Lol.......

no.

then.punch.harder..





still a guy thing.

I agree.

Invite him over, warn him that every time he tries something you will Charlie horse him, proceed to chill like nothings wrong. If he tries anything then Charlie horse him. Repeat, in the same spot, until he gets the picture

To me, this just sounds like a phase.

In your teenage years, your hormones are out of control. Its a fact. So, maybe, he just thinks hes gay. Plenty of guys do that, sometimes when they have trouble finding an attractive women who finds them equally attractive, others when they are confused about sixuality and who to be attracted too.

I would wait it out. Chances are; He probably isn't gay. Its just his hormones are out of control, which is perfectly normal. If he is gay, however, and after a couple weeks he is still chasing you, you'll need to lay down the law. You can't just let him continue with what hes doing if you don't feel the same way.

So go with his old andy's advice; Punch. Harder.

Ummmm...... Wat :huh:

Hormones. Like the post stated; There was a time in my life I thought I was gay too. I'm not afraid to admit it.