How exactly do you "JAHO": follow up thread : Othor Games

» Sat May 28, 2011 4:59 pm

Ok, you might remember my thread "how exactly do you JAHO"

So currently: I haven't asked her out, I havnt even seen her yet
I've only got 2 days left to ask, I really need help. So my current plan is I may go to my friends house tomorrow afternoon, I'll ask him if we can ride to her house.
There is no time to go on a date

but I'll tell her that I really like her, and get her number.

So are there any other options in this situation...?

» Sat May 28, 2011 5:11 pm

I'll ask him if we can ride to her house.

yes, mount your trusty steed! Then ask her out.

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:52 am

So currently: I haven't asked her out, I havnt even seen her yet

So are there any other options in this situation...?

So you're about to take a ride up to a random girls house to confess your attraction toward her?
Sounds reasonable.

» Sat May 28, 2011 8:01 pm

Be sure to say something witty about strawberries. Gets them every time.

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:36 pm

Going to her house to tell her that you like her might just creep her out. Getting her number should be done in a public setting, or at a social event.
You could alternatively mention to her that you like a certain move that's coming out, and would she like to go see it with you.
If she says she's not intrested in the movie, ask her what movies do intrest her.

» Sat May 28, 2011 6:26 am

theres a relationship advice thread. why isn't this in that?

you could always not ask her out. that seems fine too.

» Sat May 28, 2011 6:41 pm

Ride to her on your trusty steel! Confess your love whilst also blowing [censored] up with your rocket launcher and flexing your muscles! When she sees your manliness pull her up on your horse and ride into the sunset to kill Nazis, aliens, and zombies happily ever after!

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:45 am

Clarify: Two days left? Is she on a self-destruct coundown timer or something...?

Clarify: You haven't seen her yet...?? Does she even know who you are??

Clarify: You're planning on going round and asking for her number, with your mate hanging about. This is going to be intimidating, even if he's just outside waiting. In fact, just plain randomly showing up at her house to tell her you like her is pretty intimidating, unless she's personally told you her address and invited you round before.

» Sat May 28, 2011 6:26 am

This is impenetrable! there is nothing wrong with your idea!

/sarcasm

» Sat May 28, 2011 4:46 am

You don't even seem to be in a position to ask her out to be honest. Not only having absolutely no confidence in yourself, it's basically asking to get shot down because your friend is there.
If you DO ask her out, and if this does explode in your face. Come post it, I wanna know. If it goes well, kudos. If you don't tell her, then. You're like the other 85% of the male population, so don't beat yourself up.

» Sat May 28, 2011 6:40 am

I wouldn't do that, I think its going to creep her out a bit. It depends on how you're going to approach it though, are you just going to go inside and ask for it, or are you going to hang out there and talk for awhile?

» Sat May 28, 2011 3:15 pm

Very badly planed I highly doubt this girl will be your love of your life . I am hoping you are not in your forties but on how you type I don't you are a in mid life crisis so I come to a simple conclusion . Your are unreasonably obsessed with this woman and I bet you can find a better girl in the world. So even shorter terms I would advise for you to give up , your plan seems to be thrown together in a few seconds.

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:41 pm

Clarify: Two days left? Is she on a self-destruct coundown timer or something...?

That could be really sweet.... him confessing his attraction, minutes before she explodes.....

» Sat May 28, 2011 2:47 pm

That could be really sweet.... him confessing his attraction, minutes before she explodes.....

I guess the OP doesn't mind that girl exploding out of her clothes though

Anyhow OP we kinda need more details why you must have these certain conditions , to me it just sounds silly to me and sounds like she might be creeped out or worse.

» Sat May 28, 2011 9:52 am

You have got to be [censored] kidding me.

This thread again?

I'm fairly certain how to JAHO is in the meaning of JAHO. I'm sorry if I sound rude, I really don't mean to, but really it's not all that hard.

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:37 am

I guess the OP doesn't mind that girl exploding out of her clothes though

Anyhow OP we kinda need more details why you must have these certain conditions , to me it just sounds silly to me and sounds like she might be creeped out or worse.

I just think it's a lost cause. *shrugs*. He doesn't have the confidence, and it's going to show when he approaches her. And nothing looks more painful than watching a no-confidence guy get up the courage to tell a girl he likes her. It's like watching a train wreck. And odds are, if hes on a time limit like, shes moving or something. It's STUPID to tell her. All it's going to do is make her (probably already sad and uncomfortable trip) more uncomfortable and long.

» Sat May 28, 2011 9:50 am

Man you guys arn't very optimistic
I know this is a stupid plan, but it's really my only plan

By ride I mean on a bicycle not a noble steed
I only have 2 days because I'm going back home

But I will never give up on this girl...

» Sat May 28, 2011 2:06 pm

I guess your best bet is to just do it. If you are not already friends with her, than you should probably just rideover to her house, ask her if she wants to hang out for a little while because you are leaving and than just say it.

Just curious, but how old are you? Not saying you are childish, I am just curious. Because you sound like you could be 11-25.

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:56 am

I've changed my mind, I would say go for it man. I mean hang out with her for a bit first and then ask, but I would say go for it. The only way that you're going to gain the confidence and experience to do this in the future is by acting now. I wish I would have learnt that lesson earlier then 17, but my life has been so much better just because I've been going for stuff. You know every guy who radiates confidence and has no problem talking to girls? They've all been through countless awkward situations to get to that point. My point is go for it, she may say yes and she may say no, but either way you'll gain some experience for it and the next time this happens it won't be so awkward.

I just think it's a lost cause. *shrugs*. He doesn't have the confidence, and it's going to show when he approaches her. And nothing looks more painful than watching a no-confidence guy get up the courage to tell a girl he likes her. It's like watching a train wreck. And odds are, if hes on a time limit like, shes moving or something. It's STUPID to tell her. All it's going to do is make her (probably already sad and uncomfortable trip) more uncomfortable and long.

It's a lot less painless to see a 14 or 15 year old kid do it then a grown man. The only reason this guy's nervous is because he has very little experience with it. Everyone develops socially at different stages, but without actually doing stuff, you'll get nowhere. I have friends who are 18 and are scared [censored]less to approach a girl in the bar, much less in class or somewhere like that, and its only because they're too shy to act on anything.

» Sat May 28, 2011 8:16 am

Man you guys arn't very optimistic
I know this is a stupid plan, but it's really my only plan

By ride I mean on a bicycle not a noble steed
I only have 2 days because I'm going back home

But I will never give up on this girl...

If you will possibly never see this girl again, I suppose you quite literally have nothing to lose. Considering you have 2 days, I'd say you have complete reason to be in "last resort" mode. Just do what you can, and if it doesn't work, then it doesn't work.

Please don't take my previous post as being negative or demeaning, it's nothing personal or whatever; I just get somewhat annoyed at the "how do I ask this girl out" thread that pops up every other day. Though this sounds a bit more serious than those.

» Sat May 28, 2011 7:06 pm

Bring flowers and a http://www.ohnuts.com/UploadedImages/smImage/WM_Lrg_Guylian%20Seashell%20Shaped%20Chocolate%20%206%20pc.jpg.

» Sat May 28, 2011 5:18 am

I've changed my mind, I would say go for it man. I mean hang out with her for a bit first and then ask, but I would say go for it. The only way that you're going to gain the confidence and experience to do this in the future is by acting now. I wish I would have learnt that lesson earlier then 17, but my life has been so much better just because I've been going for stuff. You know every guy who radiates confidence and has no problem talking to girls? They've all been through countless awkward situations to get to that point. My point is go for it, she may say yes and she may say no, but either way you'll gain some experience for it and the next time this happens it won't be so awkward.

It's a lot less painless to see a 14 or 15 year old kid do it then a grown man. The only reason this guy's nervous is because he has very little experience with it. Everyone develops socially at different stages, but without actually doing stuff, you'll get nowhere. I have friends who are 18 and are scared [censored]less to approach a girl in the bar, much less in class or somewhere like that, and its only because they're too shy to act on anything.

I still find it hard as heck to approach girls at bars, parks, student center, college, etc. But I still go into it confident as all hell. You don't need to be good at something to be confident at it.

Just go into it with some general conversation starters and ideas in mind.

And a girl saying "no" won't result in you being a virgin for 10 years every time it happens. So don't be afraid of rejection.

» Sat May 28, 2011 5:36 am

Bring flowers and a http://www.ohnuts.com/UploadedImages/smImage/WM_Lrg_Guylian%20Seashell%20Shaped%20Chocolate%20%206%20pc.jpg.

"Sup babe, I heard you like nuts..."

» Sat May 28, 2011 3:40 pm

Like I've said before, I find that just asking a girl you don't really know to go out on a date with you usually ends in failure, even if she says yes. Build up a friendship before you start a relationship. A relationship based on friendship has the power to last much longer than a relationship based on lust.

Or chloroform. Lots of chloroform.

» Sat May 28, 2011 2:39 pm

I'm 14...

Yeah she knows that like her, but I don't think realizes just HOW much I do like her

The flowers and chocolate isnt such a bad idea actualy

I know that I'm only young and probably don't know what I'm doing but I really feel like she could be the one...