Yes i agree it does come down to personal tastes but let me express my (pessimistic) point of view.
Personally i did not feel my rp experience was hindered by the spreadsheets. Could we even call them spreadsheets? They are not that different from the current system. Skill points/perks system could be considered as a spreadsheet in the same sense, but we do need a way to track our progress/skills. I just found the attributes and the things they affected more rp-ish.
As for the spell making, i found it quite rp-ish and lore friendly to the game (since mages study and create spells). I always imagined the procedure of making a spell, as the spell making science where i calculated the parameters to create a magical new entity - not as a spreadsheet. As an rp-er this came out naturally.
Now from a gaming point of view it was a most enjoyable feature for me.
actually i share your same view on spell making it was friends of mine who found it to be a bit weighty for them and what they expected out of a game. The attributes in all truth were not so much if you did not want them to be as I stated above i did fine ignoring how I raise them.
I don't understand ????
in-game and it's a dumbed down mechanic for lazy players BUT do it out of game and it's fantastic !!! What's the differance ???? you're still doing the same thing !!! so it still should be dumb & lazy.......
I am not sure how long you been gaming for so I will not assume, but will post from the point of view of myself and fellow gaming friends of mine. I been gaming since the 80s and a lot of computer rpg games I have played like ultima did not have a quest log or other thing to remind you of things you had to take notes. So when put in front of marrowind (my first TES game) and saw the journal we thought to ourselves "wow that is a nice convenience, but wow is the impression of gamers today being seen as "we need to make it easier and more convenient for them or else they won't play our game"". Probably a more negative view on our parts to something which I admit when used and not gimped is a nice thing to have, but for us we took a different elitist role to gaming at the time. I will also say that I do not think people should be forced to paper and pen as even though it's the style I like to play it may not be for everyone and should not be forced upon them especially considering such methods are no longer the status quo for gaming.