I don't seem to be able to fit in any where. I'm nice to most people but that just doesn't seem to matter because they always run away or turn on me eventually. I've been coming here for years, on two different accounts, and I've never made one friend here. I added someone awhile back(Amazon Queen) but she removed me. I guess I didn't talk enough....

I suffer from agoraphobia, social anxiety, and depression, so it's difficult going out in the real world to make friends. It's getting difficult to make friends online too...everyone seems so stuck up, shallow, and snobby. I'm losing hope in going on...little by little...day by day. I think I'll just lock myself away for the rest of my life untill my heavy smoking and drinking (hopefully) kills me.

I have been here for years and havn't made any friends. I pvssyd with one or two people a bit but that's it. Never really made any friends don't feel so bad. If you like to chat, there is alot of us here who do though.

Don't despair, you have to talk to a few people before you can find a friend, even on line. Agoraphobia does make things tough. You might see if there is a support group in your area for people who suffer from this. Maybe they have a social network you can join up without having to go anywhere, at least at first.

And I thought I was the only one......

Heh, you have a cuddly bear as a friend now. That's always a good start on these boards - you don't want to get on the wrong side of him!.

Just post on here, join in with the discussions and let everyone get to know you. It doesn't happen overnight but as others see you around they will become more comfortable with you.

I have been here 5 years and not made any friends here. I have made many friends in smaller forums where people get to know each other better as there are fewer of us. Look for smaller ES communities and forums and join in, you will soon get to know people and they, you and you will make great friends in a short time. It is very difficult to do that in such a large community as this.

Many of those friends from smaller communities come here and have become friends here after all, but we would not have met had it not been for the smaller places. I have met some of the very best people I have known in my life in some of those small ES communities.

I'll be your friend! I've been on here for...a few years I guess and I didn't even know you could have friends lol. I've only ever gotten like 4 pms. So...what's your favorite color?

I've only managed to make friends by posting loads, and buying Red Dead Redemption at the same time as everyone else.

Edit: and by being such a likeable gent :whistling:

You just have to talk with people, and do things like you'd do if you were talking in person.

I'll be your friend, because the drink is the best friend anyone could have.... to me it is anyway. :foodndrink:

It's ok, I've been here for two years and I'm pretty sure every one hates me. :celebration:

You can try the Brink forums here:http://www.gamesas.com/index.php?/forum/53-brink/

Don't worry. The general consensus of me on the internet (as in I've actually met people and their initial greeting was): "You're [8-Bit]? The [censored] from the internet?"

You're not alone, my friend.

I like you :foodndrink:

You're definitely not the only one with social problems, my advise is to make habbits that lighten the mood and it wont cure but it cant help the depression. for example, one day try not to make a single negative comment. A generaly optimistic view on life (even if it seems fake) can really help. For me anyways. I used to be realistic which lead to being pessimistic (which then lead to me being rather negative all the time). I try to be idealistic and optimistic now.
For example: If someone asks me if I like onions (i _hate_ onions) instead of telling them that, say you like green onions in soup. which is true. Also by habbits little things like the music you listen to can help as well, I dont listen to heavey metal anymore cause I'll get depressed. Mostly pop and hiphop now, the right music at the right time can really brighten my mood.

As for making friends, more people have trouble with it than you'd think (i think) I know I do. I dont have many friends in RL... Im still working this one out. But I think in time i'll find someone i'll just seem to click with (optimism!)

You think? :facepalm: lol jk

I like you for your avatar. DeadMau5 FTW!! :jammasterjay: :intergalactic:

:lol:

I might try that!

If you ever need to just talk, send me a PM. I respond to all of 'em.

If you are looking for a good ice breaker when starting a conversation, offer the person some smokes. Works pretty good. I do that, even though I dont smoke

To be a little more on topic, I have been here for about a year and only had PMs from a few Moderators. You can add me if you want though

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDZBgHBHQT8



Well.. someone had to do it.

Starting conversations with people is hard, I'm noticing its easier to find subjects to talk about by observing what the person is wearing and just comment on it, hair jewelry, pants, shirt. Say you like it, ask where they got it, how much it was. Maybe you'll be able to relate to one of their answers, if not its no big deal, im sure whoever you complimented felt pretty good for receiving it.

Walking downtown a few times i've had people compliment something about my attire as we passed (and it felt good). You just need to get past the nervousness and "just do it. Do it. Just do it."

Generally doesn't work if one of your friends is a [censored] who feels the need to [censored] all over everything and specifically looks for bad things with everything just because he's had a bad day and then he thinks it's ok to be a [censored] if he says it's just because he is having a bad day.

I hate that guy.

Anyway yea, when you do get to making friends (and you will if you persevere) generally try to make friends with people who are usually optimistic since they can really brighten the day.

Please get some help. Seriously. The fact that you and I are related by BGSF is more than enough for me to care (more so than any other forum I've visited). I'm still not over the death of Grumpy and would hate to loose another.

I've always been an introvert and keep a very small circle of friends so I have forced myself into 'team' activities: Sports, the Army, church, etc...

If you ever need an ear to "unload on" then PM me.

Hey i'll be your friend! :foodndrink:

I've been coming to this forum for close to six years and I can probably count on one hand people I actually remember the names of. The only ones I ever converse with are the ones who added me to their steam list, and that isn't very many or very often. Hell, you could probably insult me and get away with it because I won't even remember who said it a couple of days from now.

That's pretty much how you do it. I don't consider it possible to really be "friends" with someone that you've never met, certainly on a relatively anonymous structured forum like this, but there are many people on here that I like very much, and their tribulations do give me pause for thought. If you join in more, everybody will eventually get to know you and you'll have lots of fun with the members who gel with your personality.

Oh, and an avatar helps. Its easier to remember and relate to people who have a face, even if its an anime one with flashing colours.


I don't think the eternal optimism thing is a good idea. Sometimes when people have genuine problems, they want you to emphathise with them and not brush it off cheerfully. Friendliness and approachability yes, but you have to have the full range of human emotion otherwise you tend to annoy people. I agree with the music thing (well apart from the hiphop).