I am sorry for what happened. It is pretty crash, rude, spinless of her to do it by text.

But as the saying goes, I know it dosn't mean much, but "It's better to loved and lost, than to never have loved at all."

Since you said it was a great week, Monday to Monday, at least you had that, otherwise you would have had nothing at all.

"OUCH" is right for her saying FWB. Maybe that is her way of trying to show it ment nothing, but it really did. Her way of hurting you so it would be easier for her that you will not come back for what ever her reasons are.

Well it's a learning experiance. Be greatfull for the week you had, and be extra greatfull it was only a week and not a month or a year or more.

"What dosn't kill us, makes us stronger"

I wish you the best.

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Fine... in all seriousness I think you were to soft, and you should forget about her. Easy as that.

What she said was just kind of a " omg wtf just happened" moment.

Its always easier said than done.

"Too soft"? Care to explain?

What do you expect him to say? "Well, there was a major misunderstanding and you unknowingly broke my heart, you ignorant [censored]." That's immature, and the OP handled this maturely, IMO.

Indeed, the OP did handle it in a very mature manner.

Me on the other hand.. I would have acted stone cold and make it seem like it was nothing to me. I wish I had the balls to express my feelings like he did. Alota wishes in this world, alota them.

Like powermapler said, any stronger reaction would have been immature and, frankly, uncalled for.

"I wanted you to be MY girlfriend, why do you have to go back to HIM? You already BROKE UP with him, you need to be with ME" wah wah wah wah wah wah wah wah wah. Nobody likes to hear whining. Especially not the girl who you might be in a relationship with.

She's already admitted that what she did probably wasn't nice. She already apologized. She already admitted that she probably shouldn't have done it.

If she's lying, then at least she's doing him the favor or letting him down easy. In which case, it's over and there's no point in pursuing it. If she comes back, well fine, but don't hold out for it. In the meantime, there is nothing stopping the OP from going out and meeting new people. There's no reason to think of her anymore.

And if she isn't lying and she really DOES feel bad, well then why would you make her feel any worse?

There is absolutely no reason to get in her face about it. There's no reason to talk to her about it anymore than has already happened, and it's happened quite well so far.

Totally agreed.

Selectively quoted for emphasis.

The one thing I'm concerned about from the OP's post is that he visibly hasn't gotten over her. It's going to take some effort to do so, and too much keeping the memory of their time together in view will not help in this.

True. Obviously it will take some time, but being depressed about it won't help. However, from OP's replies I think that he's feeling better about his reply to her , and that will probably help the process along.

I think you handled it with the kind of nobility that's the calling card of a true gentleman. I think you did very well for yourself.

Noblesse Oblige and all that.

My question to the OP is does she not want her necklace back? I would give it back to her, or the memory of her, the pain you felt, will all be remembered every time you see it.

I see what you did there

I... did something there?

http://armoredcore.wikia.com/wiki/Noblesse_Oblige

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Noblesse_oblige

Either way, the only thing I think you may have done wrong, OP, is indicated you wanted her back. From my (admittedly limited) experience with girls, they don't like it when guys give away overtly that they want to be with a girl. If you're subtle about it, they tend to pick up on this stuff, and I feel like they like it better that way.

Gee, you know you are on a gaming forum when that's the first response to a definition of Nobless Oblige. I went with the more... traditional interpretation.

I've never even heard of the one Deffy meant... :mellow:

Edit: Must make thread about "You know you're on a gaming forum" but... is that considered a gaming forum game?

I didnt eaither, but I assumed the one part was noble, I didnt think of a robot suit thing.

..This is why I do not like it when girls keep contact with their ex boyfriends. I know with a lot of girls, they do not talk to them anymore, but some of them hang on strong to their ex's and when they get involved with another man..they start missing their ex boyfriends even more and eventually go back to them.

From my perspective it is not something the 'new guy' did.. it is something most girls do - they get with a guy to 'hold them over' while they sort their feelings out with their ex boyfriend...

Your message was ok IMO, it was mature. It could not been me though, I probably would have got very angry, seeing as that kind of thing used to happen to me all the time. I don't mess with girls anymore and prefer to be single.

Ah, yes. Being the rebound guy svcks.

Nothing I like better on Saturday nights than being led on,

I wasn't saying you should've acted immature. In fact, the OP replied maturely except for the necklace part.

All I meant was I would have done it in a totally different way.

People have histories, lives, and a mature individual will realize that. Relationships change, but it doesn't mean that one immediately stops caring. While the intensity of feelings can change, they are still there. It's normal.
You care about people you were intimate with. Especially if the relationship was over a period of time.
From my perspective, it is the OP's fault. If he wanted her to know she was more than just someone to copulate with, he should have taken her out and spent some quality time getting to know the rest of her. He got what he wanted, nookie without the work. I don't blame her, either, I like to think I am worth much more than just six.
Like walks in the park, dates, movies, picnics, brunch, attending concerts, sporting events, learning about me while I learn about you. I am worth the effort, and I bet she was too.
Harsh but true, OP. I am a woman. Treat the next one better.

Uhm, some girls do not wont all that and just want the six also. I don't think that needs to be explained to you.

If she just wanted six, she wouldn't have "gone back with the ex", now would she?
What does he have that the OP doesnt? History.
I know full well the power of being a lynx, and limiting relationships just to six. Been round long enough to have had plenty of reltionships just for that, and conversely, ones that were based on so much more. If you want a relationship to grow, you have to put forth effort. That's applicable to both genders, as well.