Help, dating a physco! : Othor Games

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 12:35 am

Just remember to check your local laws before doing this.

It isn't illegal under UK law.

Not in the regard I mentioned, where it's a pirate conversation between to individuals, and one -or both- are recording it.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 7:34 pm

It isn't illegal under UK law.

Not in the regard I mentioned, where it's a pirate conversation between to individuals, and one -or both- are recording it.

Good to know. Though I don't think this guy is dealing with a pirate. :biggrin:

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 3:03 am

Good to know. Though I don't think this guy is dealing with a pirate. :biggrin:

Though she sounds like a bit of a wench.

*rimshot*

I'll be here all week, folks. Try the veal, and don't forget to tip your waitress!

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 4:53 pm

I'll bet TESFanner's 'nads she drops you like dead weight.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 11:51 pm

Good to know. Though I don't think this guy is dealing with a pirate. :biggrin:

I own that, don't I?

Lemme just pick it up and put it away then.. :whistling:

Though she sounds like a bit of a wench.

*rimshot*

I'll be here all week, folks. Try the veal, and don't forget to tip your waitress!

Tip her enough and she might get the guy off stage :teehee:

Hey.. drop dead.. that was uhhh..

..coincidence?

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 7:07 pm

Hey.. drop dead.. that was uhhh..

..coincidence? :tongue:

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 6:59 pm

Leave her in public. Lol.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 6:33 pm

Leave her in public. Lol.

Dumping your boss in public?

Not a good idea buddy.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 11:48 pm

Tip her enough and she might get the guy off :teehee:

Isn't that how we got here in the first place?

Bazinga!

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 12:20 am

Isn't that how we got here in the first place?

Bazinga!

nice

I actually scrolled back to see if I'd goofed :tongue:

it's late, I'm tired and uhh really tired

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 3:56 am

Things stop being 'kinky' or 'just fun' when the person concerned doesn't want it, makes that known, and the other party disregards their discomfort. A relationship where your partner doesn't give a damn about you or your needs is not a healthy relationship, and is not a recipe for good times.

To the OP, you have a choice:
1. Confess, file a sixual harrassment claim and spend a lot of time and energy fighting your case.
2. Quit your job.

You did a stupid, stupid thing and now you need to face up to it before the situation gets any worse.

Dah bunny speaks sense.

Talk to her boss about her behavior, Talk to her boss about the fire alarm stunt, and go to the Union now. This woman clearly has no problem with coercing you into performing sixual acts, and is nothing more than a sixual abuser.

This sounds good to me, too.

Stick with her, there's a chance she'll eventually get bored and move on, but there's also a chance she'll eventually get bored and destroy you just because she can, and a chance you'll get stressed out and burned out, and a chance things'll get bad enough that you end up quitting, and a chance that you'll end up having to go to her boss/HR/whatever anyway. So I figure you're better of trying to sort it out now than waiting 'till your hand is forced :shrug:

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» Sat Jun 23, 2012 7:14 am

I don't think we're into restraining order territory here.

Police: why do you want a restraining order?
You: Because I don't want her near me.
Police: Did you tell her you wanted her to stay away?
You: No, we're dating.
Police: ...

Don't try any "get her to dump you" tactics - they will inevitably backfire and leave her feeling hurt and bewildered but still with no intention of dumping you. Watch How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days for that one. Just tell her honestly that you feel suffocated and freaked out by her behaviour and that you don't want to be with her any more. Don't let her down gently, don't fudge the issue or try to be oblique about it. Yes, it will be hard, but much easier in the long run - the more honest you are about how she makes you feel, the more likely she'll take a step back and think about her behaviour.

^^^^^^^^^

Tell her how [censored] up it was of her to pull the fire alarm. Tell her that people could have been hurt. Tell her that she deserves a spanking.

You just made my day.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 4:56 pm

BAD ADVICE! Shes an EO (executive officier) I just told her that I can't do this and she said that If I dump her, then she will tell my boss that I was the one who pulled the stunt on the fire alarm. I argued with her for a good 20 minutes about this and there was shouting and alot of name calling and at the end of it I came away STILL dating her and somehow now trapped. Shes way above me in terms of the food chain and she could easily get me sacked. This is a well paid job and I ain't about to let this happen.

I was thinking about going to the union but I know if she finds out (and she will) I will get fired because whos words are they going to believe hers or mines? Im just a peon whilest shes a bishop.

Anyway, just before work finished and I made my way home I found that my bag was missing, I knew straight away it was her so I asked her and she said that I have to have six with her before I leave. This made me miss my bus, its why im 2 hours late im home for half 5 its now 7 o clock, and Im feeling ****** off and tired! Now i dread going back into the office tomorrow to tackle another day. You may think its all fun and games and shes just horny and I should enjoy the six, well yeah I am enjoying the six (why do you think I ****** her instead of just leaving my bag?) but I don't want to continue with it and I am worried about what shes gonna do about the fire alarm stunt, I could lose my job over this : /

Well at least at whatever end, you got to live what some people consider a fantasy. :tops:

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 6:05 am

If being made to feel completely uncomfortable and having unwanted attention forced on me (which is what I gather from the OP's posts) is kinky.. then I'm as straight-laced as they come.

You just said you didn't see how threatening someone, breaking the law just to get laid, and stealing someone's belongings and demanding six to get them back was kinky. All of those things can be totally kinky in the right setting, it's just all about how the person on the receiving end interprets it.

That's what isn't kinky about this situation, but that isn't what you said, so I was taking it out of context just to have the opportunity to be a perv. ;D

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 11:28 pm

You just said you didn't see how threatening someone, breaking the law just to get laid, and stealing someone's belongings and demanding six to get them back was kinky. All of those things can be totally kinky in the right setting, it's just all about how the person on the receiving end interprets it.

That's what isn't kinky about this situation, but that isn't what you said, so I was taking it out of context just to have the opportunity to be a perv. ;D

This.

Anything can be kinky, depending on the interpretation. Trust me, pulling a fire alarm and wanting to blindfold you is nothing really.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 6:57 pm

This.

Anything can be kinky, depending on the interpretation. Trust me, pulling a fire alarm and wanting to blindfold you is nothing really.

The bad part is the threatening.

To the OP,

Maybe she feels like rumors will spread if you break up with her because she thinks you will let something slip which may hurt her career. So she will fire you to ensure anything you say seems like just that of a miffed employee who got fired. Unless you stay with her of course so she can have all that kinky(to her) [NUMINIT] to herself.

Might be how her mind is working. I have lots of experience with crazy. Thank roughly 50% of my intimate relationships for that. Being a little crazy myself helps too, though i am not crazy in the psycho-stalker sense.

Anyone else feel like the OP's Girlfriend/boss is channeling Morgan Proctor? http://theinfosphere.org/Morgan_Proctor

Go find a Hermes OP.

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 7:14 am

She was also staring at him in his sleep, that doesn't seen very normal...

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 4:31 pm

My words to you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?nomobile=1&v=dsx2vdn7gpY

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 4:46 am

Though she sounds like a bit of a wench.

*rimshot*

I'll be here all week, folks. Try the veal, and don't forget to tip your waitress!

Isn't that how we got here in the first place?

Bazinga!

Lulz!

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 9:03 am

Then at some point simply ask her where she thinks this relationship with you is going. Let her do the talking after that, and once she's done go with the marriage and kids..

And then this backfires and they end up getting married. :teehee:

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 9:42 pm

A friend of mine was going out with a nurse who was using drugs, which is a concern if she's a nurse, i was talking to her and she was saying how much she loved having needles for the pain and she wanted to have all her teeth out at once and then have them all replaced with ceramics, i told her its really painful and shesaid i love it, there were a few other things that that led me to to believe she was slightly disturbed, later on my friend broke up with her because, he had finally worked out she wasnt fully stable, and when he did she tried to get into his house, then she stood out the front of his house and waited for him to come home.

If this woman doesnt have the judgement to understand simple things, setting off the fire alarm, or some of the other weird stuff youve described, breaking up with her would be the only thing to do, but id be keeping an eye open,and be very wary for awhile, and tell someone about her, just in case she does try something or maybe tries to set you up for a fall with the authorities, and next time be careful what you wish for.

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 12:29 am

..just to have the opportunity to be a perv. ;D

I take it you don't get many oppertunities then.. :nope:

This taking stuff outta context is fun, 8-bit! :yes:

» Sat Jun 23, 2012 6:10 am

Two things have just occurred to me:

1) By posting here you have created a timestamped record. As long as you don't come back and edit all your posts (thus changing the 'last edited' string), you have something which will support your side of the story if she tries to screw you figuratively.

2) Keeping a journal is often recommended in situation like this. Whenever she pulls a fire alarm, threatens you, or otherwise coerces you, write an entry.

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 10:59 pm

Have you tried a shotgun?

Works every time!

» Fri Jun 22, 2012 7:13 pm

Um, dump her.

Or get the kink on yes?

:shrug: