Your first date should always be a quick coffee, then if it's not going well you're not stuck there for hours.

i need longer than that to convince girls that im not insane,

in fact that is one of the first things i bring up when i do go on the "coffee" date and ask to spend longer together

I agree. First dates with people you don't know can be terrible, like MorrowindFan's was. I prefer to talk over coffee or tea, (though I haven't been on a real date in years.)

"Honestly, they really are out to get me!"

"If only we had gone to the movies, I would have had time to explain!"

I'm nice too, and it really svcks sometimes.

Since there has been no permanent damages why bother? When you fail you just try again with a different approach.

SIberian Tiger WTF!?!?

I can't tell if your asleep now or what, but.... SLEEP ON THE COLD COOL SIDE OF THE PILLOW!!!
Ahh happy nights

Cold Side? Don't you mean..

*puts on Sunglasses*

The Cool Side. (http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/50264_88481512646_5792202_n.jpg)

Mirglof is right. It's not proof of affection, though -- just proof that you really are "special" / "the one" / "compatible".

Nascent relationships would be easier if we could just talk about what it is that's going on. But if we have to talk about it, then it means we aren't "meant to be" or that we just don't "get them". Or something. I wish I was gay. Dating guys is 3000 times easier than dating women.


Yes.

if you know you're too polite to leave and you date people you hardly know, you're kind of begging to get yourself into situations like this. but when you've done the mistake, it often helps to talk about until you get over it.
i avoid this by not going on dates at all with people i don't know. i like to know what kind of people i'm getting mixed up with before things get too far, and it also feels more natural friends first, maybe more later if i like you.

Hey, I had a first date with a guy in a bathroom, okay?

Sounds like he was just trying to show that he was interested, some people are attracted to initiative...

I didn't know we had an ignoramus on the forums, bravo. (I kid, I kid)

Did you by any chance arrange this date via a dating website? Those are horrible, I'd rather take my chances at a bar or a... non-denominational church.

Haven't heard of the lemon law?

AKA he went faster than a speeding bullet. This was not destined to last.

But it kind of was.

Morrowindfan, like it's been said. There's younger be a lot more bad dates before you find the one. Just take a day or two and relax and regroup. Play a video game or watch a movie to clear your head.

The situation is dependent on what you were looking for. Were you looking for a long term relationship, or a late night fling?

Lol I had a date like that last year. It was HORRIBLE omg the moment I left I picked up my phone and called as many friends as I could to spill them the juice. It was totally awkward! the guy was only bragging about how masculine he was to the point where I felt like I'd much rather spend my life with a drag queen than with him. We had 0 things in common and I started to wonder why the hell I even gave that guy my phone number in the first place?!

I came out of a very intense relationship that lasted for almost three years. After that I decided to take it easy and not focus on a relationship or whatsoever for at least a year. So a year passed by and this guy approached me and asked me on a date so I thought "okay why not?". WORST REASON TO GO ON A DATE EVER! I didn't really even liked him in the first place but I just wanted to get into this dating thing again and it was HORRIBLE lol. Worst date ever that lasted way too long as well. I felt exactly the same way as you did, emotionally drained and tired.

And after that you just go on to the next one you know...after that I met some great people on dates but I still haven't found the right one. Sometimes you already notice from the start that it's not going to be a match but what the hell...that doesn't mean you can't have fun !

I have a question!!! Is it worth to date someone that had already dated multiple times (3 other people)? This girl really liked me, would constantly look at me. Then I found out about the 3 other guys and I dont like her anymore. Is it fair of me to do that? Call me old school but I want be together forever with the first person I first go out with.

It's more than just unlikely you'll be in a relationship with only one person in your entire life.

Wait, are you saying that the girl is currently dating 3 other guys? Or she has dated 3 other guys in the past?

If it's the latter.....why would you only be interested in dating someone who has never dated anyone ever before? And if you want to be "together forever" with the first person you've ever gone out with, how are you going to know what to compare that relationship to if you've never dated anyone before? It sounds to me like you're looking for a fairy tale romance that doesn't actually happen in the real world.....

If it's that she's currently dating 3 other guys, then I'd say forget it if you're looking for a monogamous long-term relationship, because that's obviously not what she's looking for at the moment.

Why would you compare a past relationship with a current one..?