What I mean is if you don't "play the field" a bit, so to speak, then you don't get the chance to get to know different people in that way, what works for you in a relationship and what doesn't, etc. With experience, you can learn what you want & don't want in a long-term relationship. Not saying it's absolutely necessary, chances are the relationship won't last "forever" anyway, but it does help.

Or I can just ignore it. Lol how could anyone be dating 3 people at the same time. I obviously meant the latter. Whatever that is.

It's not uncommon for single people to date more than one person at a time...i.e., casual dating.

So she dated 3 other people in the past... Does that mean she's destined to never be loved for the rest of her life?

I just started my third relationship, I guess I better make it last because nobody will ever want me after this!

But seriously: I don't see how who she dated in the past has any bearing on whether or not you should date her now...

The idea of spending forever with your first date is extremely unrealistic and foolish, 99% chance it's not going to happen, so instead of saying "what if she's not the one?!" and refusing to even give her a chance, why not keep an open mind and give her a go (while remembering that things could go sour at any moment)? What's the worst that could happen?

Besides, 3 ex's isn't even that much. I knew a girl who had 8...

Yeah, that's completely unfair. Just because you want to date only one person in your entire life, doesn't mean it is fair to judge other people who have dated. The realistic absolute truth about modern day Western society type dating is that you simply don't stay with the first date forever. Especially if you're starting young. People grow, change, they develop different values and beliefs, and in this course of growing, they may become incompatible with people they once fit with so well. You aren't the exact same person from birth til death.

Having had more than one relationship doesn't make you a bad person, or promiscuous, or incapable of holding a relationship. It doesn't lower your worth as a person. It means that you changed, or they changed, or you didn't work as well as you thought. It means you had the guts to try it and the guts to end it when it wasn't right. It means you've learned things about being in a relationship, like sharing your life with someone else, mutual respect, and considering your partner. Dating other people provides valuable lessons, it's not a criteria for deciding whether or not someone is worth your while.

Sorry, but no I don't feel a bit sorry for what I'm going to say. You are stupid.

It's not about worth it or not, relationship is not a commodity sir. It may be best if she didn't date you since she won't have the respect she deserves. Report me if you must but seriously, I hold no reserve for this kind of attitude.

Whoaaa Teehee, you gotta take it slow.

"No don't walk away! If you're leaving at least close the curtains first, it thwarts the snipers!"

Ah, fun at mirglof's expense is best fun.

Very true. Like they say, there are lots more fish in the sea! Keep looking and you will find that right one

I agree with you actually. Not worth the time. ( her time)

Unless of course all the fish are massed fish out by a a large group of fishers....And the eco system is messed up and soon the sharks start eating the fishers and the whole world goes to hell....

Several, from both genders. We're pretty cosmopolitan on here

As for the date, sorry to hear it went bad, maybe next time it would be better to scale down the time frame for the date, 2 - 7.30 is a very long date, I usually round mine off around the 2/3 hour mark if I've only just started seeing some one. Movies are also a pretty bad place to go for first dates, not enough interaction.

I had my first date three weeks ago. It ended perfectly. We're now engaged. Guess I'll never know what it's like to go on a bad date.

This thread has made me realize I've never had any *actual* dates. The closest I've had is an internet date, watching a movie while in Skype, so I can't claim to have good or bad dates, just digital ones

Yes, I'm "dating" someone online, it sounds stupid but we're working on the real-life part

On the note of the girl who'd dated three other guys, there's three questions. 1. Semantics; that is, dating them as in "being a couple" or dating as in "test-run for being a couple"? 2. In being a couple, was she dating all three at once? 3. If yes to 2., were they aware?"

Personally I find the idea of "test-run for a relationship" silly, the best way to actually start a relationship is to let to start as a friendship (okay, not always, but it's better than some stranger). As for polygamy, if you're up for it, whatever, but personally I like the "I'm special" feeling to a monogamous relationship . As for the third, most people'd consider that cheating, that is, to be in two relationships at once and not have the approval for it to be polygamous, and most would also agree it's not okay.

To expect her to be your first and you to be hers and for it to last, though, is idealistic, if unrealistic. Go with what you're comfortable with, though, not what someone else says.

Wait what

Lemunde doesn't waste a lady's time.

Its the power of love...
Not, your right, WHAT!?

While that might seem adorable and cutesy sometimes, It can be very off putting most other times. To me it comes across as a bit desperate.

He got the moves yo.

Met in a day
Engaged in three weeks
Twenty kids in two months
Miserable in matrimony forever

Hah. It happens. Sometimes it works out, too.

I'm confused.

I read the first 3 or so posts and you said you paid for dinner. But you said it was a guy.......

He made you pay??

When is the girl suppose to pay? Did I miss something in the years I haven't been dating??

I think I'll return to the thread when my head stops spinning.

MorrowindFan should mention he is a guy to help out those that don't know. Or those that won't look at his profile. Lol.

I am also in the "Say wha'!?" Camp. What is going on here!

No no no no. I like it when he doesn't mention it, it makes for some very funny 'It's okay baby, I'd make you happy' comments.

Didn't you make a post like that once..? ;D