I 'think' that this is the only place it happens due it being part of a quest. But correct me if I am wrong. At least we do have it though.
Re: being served by a barmaid, I finally experienced this at the Dead Man's Drink Inn in Falkreath. Maybe it has something to do with what chair you sit in? Or the time of day? The Falkreath barmaid actually spends a lot of the day outside the inn, so it's easy to sit down at a time when she isn't around.
Anyway, one more item for the wishlist: after finishing the Civil War quests (I gave the Imperials the victory), I've noticed that the "Age of Aggression" song hasn't changed--the bards in the taverns still sing of defeating Ulfric and the Stormcloaks as a hoped-for future event. It'd be nice to record male- and female-sung updated versions of this song, and its Stormcloak counterpart, that would replace http://www.uesp.net/wiki/Skyrim:Songs_of_Skyrim once one side or the other has won the Civil War. Something like:
Empire wins: "The Age of Aggression" becomes "The Age of Ascension"We drink to our youth, to battles now won. To the age of ascension, and its battles to come.
We settled the Stormcloaks and restored our home; now a fair High Queen takes up the throne.
Up with the Empire, closest of friends; up with bonds between families that begin now to mend.
We're the children of Skyrim, and we fight all our lives. And when Sovngarde beckons, every one of us dies!
But we'll die together in this land that is ours, the cold North united under the stars.
Stormcloaks win: "The Age of Oppression" becomes "The Age of Secession"We drink to our youth, to battles now won. To the age of secession, and its battles to come.
We drove out the Empire from this land that we own. With Nord blood and Nord steel we took back our home.
All hail to Ulfric! You are the High King! For you and for Talos we drink and we sing.
We're the children of Skyrim, and we fight all our lives. And when Sovngarde beckons, every one of us dies!
But before us the Thalmor, we thirst for their screams; this land is ours and we'll see it wiped clean.