the second guy was miro moreira or something? [censored] ugly

Your tags gave it away.

There are advantages and disadvantages to baldness.

Pros
Women who like older, more "distinguished", bald or more "stern" men will go for you
Easy maintenance, and no need to waste money on hair product and haircuts. That's both time and money saved.

Cons
Some women will like you less now.

I'd say pros win out.

I think the OP should not worry about this. There are girls who don't give a damn about that.

I mean, have a guy with a nice set of hair treat her like [censored], and then meet Mr.BaldRight.

It is to my experience, athough not always easy to follow, that worrying about whats on your body and how the opposite perceives you as a whole(your worth) will lead to low self esteem. This is a path that no one should begin to walk down. Don't worry about being bald, or needing a certain hair style, being skinny, fat, buffed, etc. Be yourself.

you should worry if you're fat though, because that [censored] is unhealthy

That depends on a lot of different factors. I've always had belly fat my entire life, not obese, but prominent, yet I remained healthier than most of my thin friends, albeit I did play a lot of Football in High School so I had large upper body muscles and still had a belly. My point being you can be over weight and still be healthy, even if in most cases this isn't true.

This about sums it up for me as well. They each have the un-challenging attractiveness I'd expect of say, Sears catalog models. Kind of boring. If I had to choose, I guess I'd go with the bald guy because generally speaking, I like bald/very closely cropped hair on guys.

The term you're looking for is 'pleasantly plump' and I too am fond of females matching this description. Though I don't find skinny pretty at all, and find pleasantly plump gorgeous. I also don't think it automatically makes them smart, or that being skinny automatically makes them dumb.

There's a difference between having fat, and being fat. Everyone has fat. Even the most shredded of bodybuilders. Anything under 4% body fat percentage means you're in extreme danger.

Now, if you call someone fat, it means they have more than just a beer belly. A fat person (in my mind at least) is a person who's waist is wider than their shoulders. For example, if you say "a fat guy walked into a bar..." I wouldn't picture, a guy who's a little chubby strolling in, I'd picture John Goodman.

But I have no intention of losing weight

I don't know really how to explain it. I just don't find it attractive. Obviously everyone is different - personally I prefer guys that are tubby, bordering on fat. However that's not to say guys who spend time in the gym aren't attractive. It's just not what I'm looking for personally. I guess it's probably because I don't spend time in the gym myself so I'd worry that someone who did would push me to do so and make me feel bad (either directly or indirectly) because I didn't...?

Generally people are attracted to those like themselves in appearance. Maybe I just want someone who's a bit closer to myself - chubby and not as bothered by it?


Not sure if your post has been addressed but you can't say 'girls like guys with abs'. Because it's false. Some girls like guys with abs.

Since this thread is on the tangent train now:


But that's not a choice. Let's use a smoker as an example: They start smoking even knowing the health risks. Why? Let's say peer pressure. We are prone to cave in to peer pressure because our genes tell us this is a good thing. Now what if someone explains to that smoker exactly what happens when they smoke? Either the smoker quits -- because he now fully grasps the weight of what is happening to him, his priorities have changed and he gets determination from the aforementioned -- or he doesn't -- because he likes the fix he gets and withdrawal is too unpleasant. That's not a choice: that's one set of stimuli outweighing another set of stimuli.

Psychologists are mostly there to clarify and weight a decision more favourably. They are just another set of stimuli.


Not automatically, but it does skew the chances. And yes, I meant "pleasantly plump", not "fat". I'm not a feeder.


Slightly overweight people, on average, outlive their skinnier compadres.


There's been a study that indicates that different body types give a general indication of personality and background. When you say you're attracted to overweight guys, what you're saying is you're attracted to the personality and background that comes with it.

Do you have a link about this? I'd like to know more.

Actually I've thought about it since I posted last.

I used to be really fat. I'm still chubby but not uberfatty if you know what I mean. I actually think my being attracted to bigger guys might stem from the fact that when I was heavier, only heavy guys would give me a second glance. However I'm much slimmer now, but because I was heavy from an early age it's basically 'rooted' my preferences? That and because most of the male members of my family are overweight (except my dad) it could be that I'm just psychologically drawn to that as it's a comfort thing?

Daamn now I'm overthinking it all

Do me, do me?

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Both links say "page not found"

Fixed it for ya.

First, the majority of smokers don't do so because of peer pressure, at least if we're talking about advlts. For most it is about the biological and psychological pleasures of smoking in addition to the benefits, despite the costs (yes, there are actually benefits). Avoiding withdrawal is not typically the reason people continue to smoke, because withdrawal is very temporary and most who quit but then relapse do so well beyond the withdrawal period.

Anyway, I don't disagree with your view of the benefits versus the risks as sets of stimuli that the person responds to. But this doesn't mean there isn't a choice being made. For example, you say "his priorities have changed" .... did they change biologically? He had no control over his priorities changing? Or was it a psycholgical weighing of the pros and cons, and subsequently a choice being made?

It's still saying "page not found" ... ?

Looks okay to me... Don't try the ones in the quoted bit, at risk of stating the obvious.

I don't. I read it in a book about evolutionary psychology which cited the study. If you poke around on google about evolutionary psychology, you may find something... ?

I'm clicking on the links in his original post. But, when I copy & paste, they work....weird.

Magyaronny: Looking at both photos, I think you're the type that can pull off either look really

Thank you... you made a old man happy

no? fat people aren't usually attracted to fat people. maybe some just lower their expectations on what they think they can get, but in that case, they're being insincere

They may well have. We are programmed to have different priorities at different points in our lives.


He may have. This would involve him weighing up different sets of things and deciding which is more beneficial, according to him. Viz., external stimuli, such as a psychologist, or a movie, or a conversation with a friend, may have led him to change his priorities.


That weighing and decision is still made according to stimuli. Your brain and body are just responding in the way they are programmed to -- that is, to manoeuvre you into the position that you perceive is most advantageous to you. (Whether this position is really most advantageous to you is another issue entirely.)

At this point we seem to be arguing more about whether life is deterministic or not, rather than whether psychology is just biology.

I agree.

I used to be pretty fat. I was never into fat chicks.

Out of all the girls I've had a crush on over this past year (there have been quite a few, actually) only one of them is similar to me in the sense that she has a comparable skin tone and hair color. The rest are far lighter, have light brown or blonde hair, and have blue, green, or hazel eyes, whereas I have brown eyes.