As a general comment, this topic is of course going to be a bit one-sided since there isn't a single pirate out there who can talk about how he decided to not buy Skyrim and instead pirated it, just to avoid Steam. Well, he could talk about it but then he'd get banned for admitting illegal activities. That wouldn't exactly be a bright move by the pirate, would it? That aside, there's a few posts I'd like to comment on.
There's a reason so many of us see no problem with Steam. We've seen it start out from nothing to grow into a great and respectable product. I'm often the first to be cynical of companies but Valve have consistently shown time and time again that they understand their customer base, through what they say and what they do.
If so many of us time and time again not only see no problem with Steam but positively recommend it (and I do) then it's because Valve are doing something right.
DRM is only one aspect of Steam and, even if Bethesda had elected not to use Steam, in this day and age they would still have required some form of one-time online registration.
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I see a lot of people objecting simply out of principal about choice, even when they actually choose to accept Steam by buying the game (and, in your case, your issue is with the retailler and your own oversight, as you admitted, in not looking closely enough).
There are a few problems with your post. For one, you're appealing to authority and to majority opinion. Considering how millions of people voted to not just elect Bush Jr but to reelect him, you really should know better. That you and millions of other people are more than overjoyed to let Steam own your games and control your access to those games is good. But when Steam does go down, and it most likely will eventually, then you and those millions will be canoeing down Crap Creek without a paddle.
You're right that online activation is getting increasingly popular and you'd also be right in speculating that I don't like that either. Even so, with a one-time registration, you really only have to register one time and then you can forget about the whole DRM crap until next installation. With Steam, you need the Steam client running EVERY SINGLE TIME you start a Steam-based application. That's a load of rubbish.
You say there's no valid reason to dislike Steam? Well, tell that to the people who got auto-updated to have backwards-flying dragons. Tell that to the people who got stealth updated so their SKSE or memory awareness fixes stopped working. Tell that to the people who have corrupted installations and have to re-download the whole damn thing. And I'm willing to bet quite a lot that my DVD-drive data transfer rate is faster than your internet connection. I'd bet even more that my HDD image of my DVD is faster than any connection available in your area. And that's just from a normal SATA HDD. Imagine if I was storing my image on an SSD drive?
Finally, you say it's my own damn fault and that I chose Steam? No, I didn't choose Steam, I accepted some degree of system pollution as a condition for playing Skyrim. It's like choosing to have six with Megan Fox on the condition that she gets to urinate down your back. I'd of course totally go for that but it doesn't mean I'm cool with women peeing on me. Or if you'd rather have a teen-friendly example, I decided to close my eyes, hold my nose, focus my thoughts, and eat my broccoli rather than listen to my mom harp on and on and on about how healthy they are and whatnot.
There, both an advlt and a teen-friendly anology. If that doesn't explain my very reluctant acceptance of having Steam even installed on my system then I don't know what will. Except possibly some rather colorful language that will no doubt leave the resident moderators with some violent urges, which is something I'd rather not introduce in people who wield mighty battlehammers of account termination.
Steam does not invade your privacy. They collect information on a voluntary basis via optional hardware and software surveys. You buy games on Steam too, at least the licence but this is not unique to Steam. This is standard practice across the industry. Steam's impact on system resources is minimal and does not slow your system down unless you have several games downloading or updating at the same time (which you can pause).
Again a few things I have to comment on.
1) Only guarantee we have that Steam won't invade our privacy is that Valve has promised they don't. I'll trust them turning down potential millions in profit as much as I'd trust Sony with my credit card or a sales rep to even be withing 50% of the truth about the product he's trying to sell.
2) Speaking of privacy, do you realise that Steam phoning home is actually already an indication of what you're doing with your spare time? It may not be a huge breach, but it *is* a breach.
3) You don't own your games bought through Steam, you own a Steam account with access to a number of games. If Steam dies, your account becomes worthless and your games are gone. Conversely, I do very much own all my disk based games and while I might have a hard time activating some of them online, in case the publisher goes under or takes down their validation server, I can at least use various remedies to get around such problems. You can't use those remedies to get around not having a game at all. You'd have to download the entire game from a pirate site rather than simply finding a no-activation fix.