What happened with DA2 was horrible. But, in no way is Skyrim that to TES.
Skyrim is different. As each game is different. Companies are trying out new ways to improve things in their games. I remember in Morrowind hating to have like shoulder pads, arms, and gloves parts to getting a full set of armor. Its tedious.
I love Morrowind, Oblivion, and Skyrim for what each one does right. And they all do things right. But, even the old games did stuff bad. Your memories cloud that.
Skyrim is not dumbed now, and nothing compared to DA2.